Jealousy is ugly on me. I suppose it's ugly on anyone but it feels particularly nasty when I wear it. I would love to do away with it completely as an emotion, but it keeps cropping up again. It's not that I'm jealous of women who are taller, thinner, prettier. I'm not jealous of women with more money or more glamorous lifestyles. I'm jealous of one person and one person only: the mother of my stepson. And maybe not for the reasons you would think.
When I lost my second child in a second trimester miscarriage, Angelina Jolie was also pregnant, and was quoted as saying something along the lines of loving how much she felt like a woman, like her body was functioning exactly as it was designed to function. That quote left me, volatile and reeling, a sobbing mess – although to be fair, a sobbing mess pretty much describes me for the months following the miscarriage. What was wrong with my body? Why hadn’t I functioned as I was supposed to? I already had one beautiful and healthy child. What had I done wrong the second time around?
When we're sick, we struggle with how to manage childcare. Debates over who is more sick or who is more in need of rest more rage between us. When you're sick and also have to care for a baby, how do you manage to get well and keep your child safe without ending your marriage?
Next month, I will be married for 23 years and, Facebook, I've got news: as far as status goes, Married and It's Complicated are not two separate categories. Women who have been married for more than a few years, and especially those with children, know this fundamental truth.
Here at LoveMom, we bring you the love. Our weekly Baby Bytes bring you everything else. Here are this week's 5 must-click mom links: how kegels may be doing you more harm than good, how money dictates the balance in your relationship, and what to do when you feel that you may like one of your children just a little bit more than the other. One woman wants advice on whether or not to persist as a working mom, and 8 tips on living the ever-elusive balanced life.
One morning in November 2009, I woke up after yet another drunken fight and told my husband I wanted to get help. He left anyway. It took me months to get my issues with drinking under control, and a lot of work to reconnect with my husband as "sober me." Though this was the greatest struggle of my life thus far, I’m forever thankful that it all went down exactly when it did.
Do you want to hear something really sad? It took me three weeks to sit down to paint my nails. Not to find time for a mani/pedi at a salon, not to buff and polish and shape at home. Three weeks to slap a coat of pearly-pink paint on 10 fingertips. Seriously. Just paint. Two coats of color, no base, nothing fancy. Don’t even get me started on how long it's been since I've had time to deep condition my hair. For real.
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We're currently living on the edge of a new pregnancy, and the tension this involves has us virtually climbing the walls. Our relaxation solution? Plan an adults-only trip for our five-year anniversary. We're thrilled at the prospect of having some time together, but just planning this trip around work, childcare and our finances is eventful in itself. Parenting really is, and always will be, living on the edge of chaos.
Here at LoveMom, we bring you the love. Our weekly Baby Bytes bring you everything else. Here are this week's 7 must-click mom links: Charlie Sheen falls into an ugly custody battle with Brooke Mueller, while other single moms learn how to tell dates that they have children. Unexpected costs incurred upon having children, using the TV as a babysitter and how to make motherhood the most rewarding adventure of your life. These links, along with 10 things moms never thought they'd do to get their baby to sleep.