Fighting sucks, but it happens in almost every relationship, so for healthy coupledom you have to know how to deal with arguments and anger. According to a study at U Mich, the best solution for processing negative feelings is to step back from the emotions and try to evaluate what happened from a distance. It sounds like common sense—you've probably heard, or said, "I need a second to calm down," or "let's think about this rationally"—but there are subtle differences in the way you think about the experience and your emotions that can help or hinder your ability to effectively deal with adversity.
According to the Journal of Applied Psychology, in 1979 researchers at the University of Florida asked over 12,000 men and women between the ages of 14 and 22 about their opinions on "traditional" and "untraditional" roles for women. (Of course, middle- and lower-class women have always worked a job or two, in addition to raising kids, but still the idea that it is "tradition" for women to be stay-at-home moms persists.) Researchers checked in with their study subjects three times in the ensuing two decades and found that men, more often then women, held "traditional" ideas about women working outside the home but also that these men tended to earn more. The (slightly) good news? Women with "untraditional" views earn $1,500 more than women with "traditional" views, but that's a small consolation. (That's, like, one new MacBook laptop.)
University of Georgia researchers used personality questionnaires to determine 130 Facebook users' levels of narcissism, then showed the profiles to strangers. Based on a user's number of friends, level of attractiveness and degree of self-promotion in the main photo, the strangers were able to pinpoint the narcissists with a high degree of accuracy.
Officially known as "National Unmarried and Single Americans Week," this week celebrates the 92 million unmarrieds living in the US. Why, you might ask, do we need a week to recognize the unwed? You might be surprised. As a legal term, single means that you're not married; you check "single" whether you're a 20-year-old college student, a 35-year-old working mother or a middle-aged widow. All of these populations have unique needs, but they also face common challenges. Singles activism divides into two camps: those advocating for legal rights for singles, and those trying to bust stereotypes that being married is better than being single.
Maybe we don't all wear an LBD (Little Black Dress) on a first date. But, chances are, everyone needs something non-denim for an occasion—be it a wedding, holiday gathering or simply to make yourself feel sexy on an average Friday night.
Blog: Life As A Human Sexuality Major Blogger: The Sexologist, a 24-year-old human sexuality major LoveStage: Taken Now that the school year has started our thoughts turn to academics. And what students are more exciting that those studying to be sexologists? With this in mind, we bring you this week's blogger crush, Life As A Human Sexuality Major. This 24-year-old anonymous blogger makes "no claims to be an 'expert' in Human Sexuality," but hopefully one day she'll be teaching us all about it. She learned about sex in second grade after her older sister and a friend gave an impromptu lesson, drew naked angels in junior high art class and took her first human sexuality class in college. "I think that I always was intrigued with the obscene, the controversial, and the unmentionable," she explains.
I'm well aware I'm just about the last twenty-something who lives in New York City who actually is sitting home on a Saturday night watching Saturday Night Live. But sometimes I'm rewarded with little gems like this spoof of the sex-drenched nighttime soap Gossip Girl.
Flirting is free on Yahoo! Personals, Yahoo!'s online dating site. Just sign in to send a user one of these –ironically– impersonal and genetic "Icebreakers." (When it comes to picking up readers, however, I prefer to jazz ‘em up...!).
It's Friday and that means you'll spend most of the day in your cube reading blogs (check!) and surreptitiously watching online videos. Start with this fine, fine Belgian sex ed video about the spit vs. swallow dilemma, courtesy of Gawker. It's safe for work but definitely don't watch with your boss standing over your shoulder...
Planned Parenthood estimates that more than one-third of women in the United States will undergo an abortion by age 45. In the words of a friend, "Chances are, we all know someone who's had one." Despite such astounding figures, the topic remains hushed. Personal, political or religious preference make "I had an abortion..." stories rare. While a woman's right to choose is broadcast loud and clear as a political issue from every mainstream news outlet, a 23-year-old woman's blog recounting her experience having an abortion has been circulating the web anonymously. Other women are stepping boldly into the media spotlight, putting faces, names and personal accounts to the controversy.