Ever since John Edwards explained away his affair with Rielle Hunter, saying, "I started to believe that I was special and became increasing egocentric", we've been thinking about how it is just SUCH a dealbreaker to date a guy who's a narcissist. After all, who wants to end up in a bitter divorce battle like Christie Brinkley, whose ex-husband, Peter Cook, (who admitted to lying and cheating) was diagnosed as narcissistic by a court psychiatrist during their publicized divorce trial proceedings. But how do you tell if a person is a narcissist before you get caught up in their web of egocentricity? We took a look at the actual key factors in the diagnosis for narcissism and found out that a lot of women we know have the real life experience to back up the facts. All the info you need to know, after the jump…
Do we as a society prefer different looking men depending on the state of our bank accounts? Does unemployment cause us to instinctively eye skinny guys? Burly types? According to Daily Mail writer Tanya Gold, a self-proclaimed meaty man lover, those skinny jean wearing pretty boys are as out as investment bankers, and to replace them? The Daniel Craigs and Hugh Jackman's of the celebrity world. Gold thinks us ladies want the strong, fleshy arms of a "beefcake" to rock us through the dark, daunting days of an economic downturn. Gold goes throughout the years and outlines all of Hollywood's heartthrobs, proving her economic climate thesis.
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The recession will affect relationships in different ways, and just how couples deal with the economic turmoil will depend on a multitude of factors. While the prevailing tone of this roundup of perspectives on what happens to couples as they wade through economic woes in The New York Times, a few panelists shed light on positive points. Here are a few that rose to the fore:
According to The New York Times, out of work fathers are lining up for vasectomies in the same fervor as they do the unemployment insurance. The Southern California Planned Parenthood has reported a 30% increase in vasectomies, while an Upper East Side doctor in New York City says the financial world's demise has sent herds of fired New Yorkers into his office, upping his usual monthly snip snip quota from six to nine. Whie we're thrilled as ever men are taking control of this whole reproductive problem (it's almost as good as the whispers of male birth control pills) one would venture to guess men are choosing sterilization over condoms. Interesting. And also a point of concern for doctors who feel the urge to tell their eager Fathers No More that vasectomies, while reversable, aren't an operation that should be done in haste. As one frazzled, recently canned 30-year-old told The Times: "I wanted to get this done before the insurance ran out." As if he was talking about a teeth-cleaning or check-up.
In my twenties, I dated a guy who was 12 years older than me. In my thirties, I went in the other direction, dating a dude 11 years my junior. (Don't you dare call me a cougar!) Although both ended rather badly, I feel like that while the gaping age difference didn't directly cause either relationship's demise, it certainly didn't help. Mostly because I wasn't very graceful about handling it. So, learn from my mistakes. Whichever way your May/December relationship skews, there are certain pitfalls you should do your best to avoid.
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