Before Erin and I went on our Skype dates, Glamour set us up on a conference call with dating expert Rachel Greenwald. One thing she really stressed was the importance of coming up with a few icebreaker questions to get the conversational ball rolling. I was skeptical—aren't icebreakers kinda corny? But Rachel made a compelling argument that it's better cheesy questions are ultimately more effective than tired demographic inquiries like "How many siblings do you have?" and "Do you have any life-threatening food allergies?" So I came up with a few icebreakers in advance and, lo and behold, they totally worked! Now I'm asking every girl I meet silly questions. Here are a few or my favorites:
I've been married all of 11 days now and, one cliché I will be able to avoid, though, is the terrible mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship so many women have. My own mother-in-law passed away long before I got a chance to meet her, and while I'd love to think we would have had a wonderful relationship—if her sons are any indication, she was a terrific woman and I hope she would have approved of me—the odds, apparently, aren't in our favor.
Those who read this column know that I’ve been writing very personally about how the downturn has affected my relationship. In all honesty, I’m starting to fear that by focusing on what’s happening inside relationships, we may be losing sight of larger contexts—what could and should be happening in the structures that govern our lives.
The same production company who masterminded The Real Housewives of Atlanta is looking for fabulous gay men to add some sparkle to reality television. But these aren't just any gay men—but gay men living the glam life in a May/December type of show-mance.
Have you been in this situation before? You're not a prude, but sometimes there are any number of reasons why you're not willing or able to go for the deed on a particular night. And maybe it's a good thing. Why? Because let's face it: waiting to have sex—regardless of religious concerns or affectations of "being hard to get" or whatever reason you have—puts you in control of the situation and heightens both the desire and anticipation of the inevitable. Here are a few lines that you might want to try out if the opportunity arises.
Summer is a time to sit back, relax and treat yourself. From breaks ups and funny guys to celebrity Barbies there was plenty of stuff packing into YourTango this week.
We'd like to show some love to all the lefties out there! In case you haven't heard, it's Left Handers' Day! Now, while only a select number of us have managed to nab a lefty, (only 10 percent of people are left handed) those of us who did, got some pleasant surprises. Research suggests that people who predominately use their left hand have higher than average IQs, maybe be more independent and more able to adapt to life. Some researchers even believe that lefties have more leadership abilities pointing to the recent number of left-handed presidents we've had in the United States. Some other fun facts about left handers: left handers excel in baseball, tennis and swimming, four of the five founder of Apple were left handed, and left handed people typically reach puberty before righties. While we realize some of the traits like adaptability and determination are probably inherited because it's a right-handed world, we still believe a lot of it is pure sex appeal. So, in honor of Left Handers' Day, we've developed the nine lefties we'd like to date.
Is it okay if you, er, fudge a little in order to move things along? Dr. Jane Greer, a marriage and family therapist in New York City and host of the radio show Doctor On Call, examines the issue.
Achim Schützwohl and his research team of Brunel University in London rounded up groups of American, Italian and German men and women for a little game of "who would you (hypothetically) screw" and found out men are much more likely to have a one nighter with someone they found unattractive.
Love Bytes: Five must click sex, dating and relationship links.