Gollum slithered around the picnic tables in a bald wig and a loincloth. Bilbo Baggins manned the barbecue. An elf with pointy ears asked if we had any veggie burgers. My boyfriend, David, and I had not come dressed for the "Lord Of The Rings" theme for his family's annual group vacation with their friends. But costumed or not, I knew I'd be under scrutiny: I'm the first woman he'd brought along to introduce to everybody in his 26 years of attending. As Gollum lumbered by towards the card table full of key lime pies and cookie burgers, I turned to David and grinned. "Real love," I said, "is spending the weekend with your parents and their friends when everyone is dressed like Hobbits." He grinned back and we kissed. Forty-eight hours later, David and I decided that we would move in together, waking up next to each other every morning and falling asleep together every night.
As her sister edged toward her 40th year, Deidre Fishel noticed a panic slowly building and taking hold of her. She feared the dip in libido that comes along with age. Fishel wanted to see if there was real reason to fear, or if there were older women out there bucking the myth, that they were sexless, cranky old things.
YourTango this week was busy helping you with everything from technology to marriage to death and everything in between. But in case you were too busy planning that Independence Day picnic, here's this week's best from YourTango.
Love Bytes: Six must-click sex, love and relationship links. Dating at Ikea, 4th of July date ideas, and having love and a career.
On July 4th, 1776, the American Colonies broke their ties to a tyrant King and began "The Great Experiment" of Democracy. This year, we celebrate 234 years of independence and the rights and freedoms that came along with it. And really, when you think about it, which among us has more of a claim to that inheritance than any of the single ladies out there? Because, as YourTango sees it, they remain the true residents of this land of the free and home of the brave! In this spirit, we've rounded up the top 4 reasons why all the independent women out there should light a roman candle for their life, liberty and ongoing pursuit of happiness. Top 4 Reasons to Love Being Independent on the Fourth 1. Because at 4th of July barbecues, just like with burgers and beer, there's no better time than to bring what you have to the table, take what you want and indulge for a day.
According to new research, males agree on attractiveness more than females. "Men agree a lot more about who they find attractive and unattractive than women agree about who they find attractive and unattractive," study researcher Dustin Wood, assistant professor of psychology at Wake Forest University in North Carolina, told LiveScience.
We remember being young, hanging at our grandmother's house, and seeing this brown cardboard box being passed around. The mystery box was teeming with paperback romance novels, the pages of which made thick from page turning and dog earing. She'd read her way to the bottom of the box and, then trade with friends and, with relish, begin on a new stack of inky steaminess. When we recently spotted a day-in-the-life profile about none other than Nora Roberts, one of the most successful romance novelists of all time, in The New Yorker, we were thrilled to have a glimpse into a day in the life of a real-life romance novelist.
If it weren't for the covers of women's magazines like Glamopolitan, my time standing in grocery lines would be spent reading the copy on my frozen dinners. It's amazing how reading "succulent tenderloins cradled by fluffy mashed potatoes" makes a meal squeezed out of a nozzle and flash frozen taste that much better. It was standing in line with my pathetic pyramid of bachelor food that I learned that there are, like, 1,342 different ways to drive me wild. And here I was, thinking there was only one, 100% guaranteed way to drive me wild, and that was to touch my penis.
Susan Crain Bakos is a research sexologist, sex journalist and author. Here, she tells us how to have an orgasm while giving a guy oral sex -- a tip from her book "The New Tantra." If you're in a relationship, you probably have quid pro quo sex: You arouse him with some oral sex, he returns so you can orgasm, you shift to intercourse for his peak and finish with The Cuddle for your benefit. Give your sex life a jolt with fellatio that will rock both of your worlds (really!). It's time modern women got down on our knees for something other than a yoga class -- to really worship his penis.