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Why Strong Women Fantasize About Being Dominated

Imagine a woman: She has a college degree and a job, she pays for her own house and car, and she's not intimidated by any man for any reason. She's smart, independent and strong. Isn't it a puzzle, then, that she has sexual fantasies of being dominated? Actually, researchers say, it makes perfect sense.

Arranged Marriage: Not So Bad?

Arranged Marriage: Not So Bad?

The New York Times' Modern Love had a rather charming essay yesterday ("An Arranged Marriage, Then And Now") where the narrator discusses his situation in the same cool, detached Western way in which we discuss all of our bodily exchanges. He (Farahad Zama) is a "well-brought-up boy" of Indian descent who went the traditional route and agreed to marry his neighbor's daughter after only spending 45 minutes with her.I Hope My Daughter Marries... When she was presented to him, he describes her as "cute" (cute enough, we presume) and "nodded in approval." It all sounds horribly romantic. Almost in the same vain as us Westerners nod in approval to whomever we're seated next at our neighborhood bar once it reaches witching hour. So they married, have two sons, and the arrangement has (dare we say) worked splendidly. Do they disagree? Sure. Do they have their differences? Absolutely. But if given a second shot at it, would the narrator have done anything differently? No.

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7 Mistakes That Prolong The Misery Of A Breakup

In her new book, Getting Past Your Breakup, Susan J. Elliot says that a rule of No Contact with your ex is necessary to fully heal and grieve after a tough breakup. Although she understands how difficult this notion can be (she has personal experience in the department of contacting exes), she says, "in order to truly get past your breakup, you need to separate emotionally, physically, and psychologically from the relationship, and the primary way to do that is to stop talking to your ex."Read: Stay Together or Break Up? How To Decide Now

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Who's Choosier: Men Or Women?

The answer as to who, in the romance equation, is pickier when it comes to selecting a mate may come down to a question of who's doing the approaching and who's being approached, regardless of gender, finds a new study from researchers at Northwestern University.

Do Blondes Have More Dates?

Do Blondes Have More Dates?

I went out with my friend Lindsey last night for some Cali Comfort (she is from San Diego, too). We started talking about how tiresome the winters are getting and the possibility of moving home one day. I think, though, for a single girl like me, strategy comes into play. Whenever my friends and I discuss east coast vs. west coast—and the male prospects on both coasts—the talk always turns to hair color and boob size. The general idea is that men in New York prefer the Jackies and men in SoCal want the Marilyns. Obviously, this is a generalization. Lindsey’s husband Nate is also from San Diego, and he married a brunette. We think it’s a measure of a great guy.

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Married Women At Fault For Own Unhappiness

Earlier this week, New York Times columnist, Ross Douthat, wrote an op-ed piece about how feminism has made women increasingly unhappy over the last 30 years. Despite being wealthier, healthier and better educated than they were a generation ago, women in post-feminist America aren't as happy as they used to be. He suggested this may have something to do with the number of women "stuck raising kids alone," a "depressing" lifestyle that's much more common among women in the lower socioeconomic class. This hardly explains why so many wealthy women in East Hampton are so miserable, though, Douthat admits.

Which Profession Is The Most Datable?

Which Profession Is The Most Datable?

Finance guys are now the poster children for the fall of our nation's greatness. They are the reason, or at least what everyone has decided is the reason in order to make themselves feel better about knowingly having bought a house well above their means, why we are in our current economic situation. Understandably these Masters are no longer pumped about the Hello I'm Cute Finance Guy stickers stuck to their suit lapels.

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5 More Down And Dirty Divorce Tricks

5. Spending money wildly, as a form of "payback". Some spurned wives choose to take revenge by spending as much as they can on their husbands’ credit cards before the husbands realise what is going on. One client of mine with an Amex Centurion card received a credit card bill for £30,000 for jewellery purchased by his wife from Cartier.

Does A Marriage Ever Recover From Lack Of Sex?

Does A Marriage Ever Recover From Lack Of Sex?

The New York Times ran a Q and A with Georgia State sociology professor Denise A. Donnelly who is very successfully building a case that a sexless marriage may not only be a deciding factor for divorce, but a state that a marriage has little chance of ever recovering from. But big picture, it may not be lack of sex but unequal desire that causes problems. If both parties are pleased as punch being platonic bedmates, than fair enough. But more realistically, one wants sex and the other is resistant. Even more, after a partner's advances have been thwarted off one too many times, Donnelly says the marriage has little chance of recovering.