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How To Keep Your Relationship Healthy

Every smart woman knows that making time for an annual physical is a commonsense priority for optimal health. If we were to do the same thing for our relationships, they would stay healthy and strong too. So, if you've never thought about it, I encourage you to think about it. What would your relationship checkup include? How healthy is your marriage? I think about it around the end of the year, as opposed to the first of the year when others are making resolutions for this, that, or the other. The end of the year really works well for me because I'm pensive, and very goal-oriented. Having specific goals for all of the important relationships in my life helps me to manage myself in these relationships—especially my marriage. Now, these aren't engraved in stone, but serve more as guides that help me in my desire to be intentional in my behavior rather than reactionary. A relational checkup is really nothing more than your intentional effort to stay positively connected in your relationship. And, one of the things you can do is to attend to how you talk together as a couple. This is a very powerful and protective strategy for your relationship. Including it in your relationship checkup process can yield big short and long-term results.

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Why Women Should Look Forward To Aging

Don't believe what you read in magazines and Web sites for women. Well, except for this one. When it's me. Publications for women love to make you feel sh**ty about yourself, particularly when it comes to aging—as if it were a choice, and women who choose to let nature take its course are sad, harelipped bog creatures who are too busy listening to the wind whistle through their empty wombs to properly moisturize. Actresses who were once young and vibrant and adorable undergo grotesque surgeries to defy the natural process of senescence and end up with strange facsimiles of their former faces. (Meg Ryan's mouth and Lara Flynn Boyle's mouth should go bowling at an alley that allows weird-looking mouths to bowl at discount prices.) Well, I'm sort of sick of it. Yes, 20-something women can be vital and gorgeous, many of them with bodies at the nubile peak that our culture covets so much. It's not just the gorgeous groundstrokes that keep men watching women's tennis. And don't get me started on the grunting volley. But older women? They rule. For a ton of reasons. And they're sexy as all get out.

Syphilis From Facebook And 6 More Silly Sex Myths

Syphilis From Facebook And 6 More Silly Sex Myths

We were appalled to read that researchers are blaming Facebook, of all things, for increased syphilis outbreaks in the U.K. Last year, Durham, Sunderland, and Teesside, the regions where Facebook is most popular, reported four times more than the usual number of syphilis cases. In an interview with The Telegraph, Professor Peter Kelly, director of public health in Teesside, speculated that social networking websites have made it easier for people to meet strangers for casual sex.

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How To Deal With His Female Friends

In general, I'm not really a jealous person; in fact, a recurring fantasy is to watch whomever I'm seeing with another woman (I haven't done that yet—I like keeping it in the fantasy realm). But maybe I'm more jealous than I'd like to think, because it's taken meeting several of his friends for me to assess them individually, to get to know them, before I feel totally comfortable. Some of them ask him for back rubs, and the first time I saw him take his hands to another girl's muscles, I can't lie: it bothered me.

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Fear Of Sex Indoors And 12 Other Sexual Phobias

Most of us have either had or fantasized about outdoor sex, but for Danielle Vincely, it's the only type of sex she knows. Earlier this week, the 24 year-old reported a phobia of having sex indoors, saying that the experience chokes her up and gives her near-panic attacks. After trying anti-depressants, Danielle decided that she would rather have sex where she likes it—on park benches and hoods of cars—than become depedent on drugs.

What To Expect From New Jerry Springer Dating Show

What To Expect From New Jerry Springer Dating Show

Have you heard? Jerry Springer will once again be the moral compass talk show host on the Game Show Network. This time for a brand, spankin' new dating show called Baggage. Three contestants will compete for a date by divulging in their personality flaws upfront, thus carrying their "baggage" out in the open as to avoid future surprise. Springer describes the show as "fun and lighthearted," but with Springer steering the ship we aren't so sure. Here are five Baggage predictions.

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10 Traits Of Undateable Men We'd Still Date

The authors of Undateable—a compendium of 311 things men do, say or wear that renders them... well... undateable—interviewed "hundreds of smart, funny, normal women" in an effort to pin down the top red flags and deal breakers men can be guilty of. Flipping through, however, we began to wonder if the average woman was rendering herself undateable... simply by being so judgy.

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4 Ways Health Care Reform Affects Relationships

Unless you've been living in a cave somewhere, (it's OK if you have been—we don't judge) you know that President Obama has really been shaking things up on Capitol Hill. Standing at the helm of the Democratic majority, he managed to push the first health care reform bill in 50 years (Medicare) through Congress. We have to admit, political parties aside, that this is an enormous achievement. But after the smoke has cleared, along with the shock and excitement, and the dismay of most Republicans, many are wondering how all this will affect their lives. And here at YourTango, of course we're worried about how this will impact our relationships. Government progress? Be still our hearts! But after the smoke has cleared, along with the shock and excitement, many are wondering how all this will affect their lives. And here at YourTango, of course we're worried about how this will impact our relationships. So with a salute to Uncle Sam, we put on our hard hats and dove into the 2,074 page bill to pull out the facts that matter most to you and your lover.