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Why One Newlywed Wants To Have An Affair

When it was time to tie the knot, we decided to elope, rather than have a big wedding. We were both in agreement on that. Then, pretty soon afterward, he started traveling for work more often. I started to realize that marrying a highly motivated person means you also marry someone who's... busy. I first heard about Ashley Madison on the radio.

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10 Pros And Cons: Changing Your Name For Marriage

Changing your last name for marriage is a big decision, here are 10 pros and cons to help you decide. Many of us spent our childhood years doodling our names with the "Mrs." pronoun into the margins of our diaries. We experimented with our crushes' names, imagined ourselves with famous names (Mrs. DiCaprio, anybody?), or dreamed up names that were completely random altogether. Now that we're a little more seasoned and—hopefully—more in tune with our sense of individuality, we figure that changing our last name for marriage isn't newlywed protocol.

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Dating Disaster: Vegans Like You Cause Anorexia

Online dating is hard enough without all the risks of what could go wrong. From deceptive pictures to insincere motives, Jessica Adams has gone through it all. She shares in this hilarious account how one prospective match, a promising sociology student, turned out to be less than desirable.

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Secrets Of The Male Mind: Ogling, Emotions And Sex

Why, we all seem to ask, do men always seem to zone out when we tell them about a bad day? And better yet, why do they say that they can't get enough of us and then ogle longingly at the next barely-dressed stranger to pass him by like she's a piece of meat? According to Louann Brizendine, M.D. and her new book The Male Brain, it's all part of the male mind, and he is NOT alone. Maybe mom was onto something during those times when all she had to say about your father was a grumbled, "he is such a man". Male minds do, indeed, work different than their female counterparts.

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Judy Blume: Crucial Sex Education For Young Girls

As a young girl—ovaries yet to ripen and hymen still in intact—reading Judy Blume books were like porn for me … educational porn. These were the pre-internet days, before I could Google "funny feeling down there" or "penis, hard-on." All I had was my imagination and my canon of Judy Blume books to aid my highly curious pre-teen mind. They were a permanent Sharpie mark on my burgeoning deviant mind.

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Do You Need A Dating Makeover?

Have you ever felt you might benefit from a dating makeover? Is it because all the men you bring home from Pub 46 inexplicably prove to have drinking problems? Is it because you never seem to score a second date? Do you worry that maybe... possibly... you're coming on too strong? We here at YourTango work hard every day to bring you vital relationship tips and advice, but we were thinking it was about time to take things up a notch. Which is why we've paired up with Kira Sabin, the Dating Makeover Coach, to bring you the Girls' Night In Tele-Chat, a four-part teleseries in which we interview some big-name dating experts.

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Why You're Better Off Dating A Nerd

A recent issue of a woman's magazine instructed their readers to date "nerds." The article read like it was written by a bunch of mean girl anthropologists in little black dresses who just discovered a whole new species of men. They seemed so happy to find guys who weren't smug investment bankers, aging jocks, or sociopathic musicians. But by their definition, a nerd is a scrawny, wheezing, socially awkward savant utterly devoted to any woman who pays him even the slightest attention. That's not a nerd.

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Facial Hair: Should You Ask Him To Shave?

We've all been there: You come up for air during a heavy makeout session and feel a distinct burning sensation... on your face. Thanks to Loverboy's adoption of the rugged men of "Lost"'s unshaven aesthetic, you've got yourself a case of razor burn worse than when you first tried shaving your legs without water. Love hurts, yes, but it shouldn't be threaten to ruin all of the hard work of your Proactiv regimen. So what's a tactful but smitten woman to do when a dude's facial hair causes her pain? Advice expert Alanna Kalb, author of the upcoming book Stuff Every Woman Should Know, has this to say: "Much like wearing lumberjack plaid, beards make men feel masculine. And men like to feel masculine." In other words, it might be your skin at stake, but it could also be his manhood, so broach the subject with sensitivity.