People are always asking how they'll know when they've found The One, when it's time to settle down for good and get married. But what I'm here to tell you is, you may already be "married" and not even know it. I've been in an unmarried long-term relationship for years, which comes with its fair share of marginalization. No matter how long you've been committed to somebody, most people won't really recognize the capital-S Seriousness of your partnership without the "legally binding" part. Look, guys—there are more things that bind two people together forever than a marriage license. As everybody who's been in a long-term relationship—married or not—knows, there's much more to being married than the piece of paper from the city hall. So I've prepared a some handy proof for us marrieds to keep on hand for the inquisitive and unbelieving. Caution—if you're in a loving, committed partnership, you may be more married than you think.
What if our employers catered to a shattered relationship like they did the flu? What if a philandering boyfriend or husband was treated like a heart attack, and your boss not only encouraged time off but shuddered at the thought of returning at less then 100 percent. In an ideal world, our employers could help our relationships stay healthy and strong.
The Frisky's “Mind of Man” columnist has argued that couples moving in together is the kiss of death for a relationship. This other writer thinks he's crazy—always, always, always move in together before you commit to marriage!—but there are other real kiss of death moments for couples. Check out "15 Signs You're Headed For Bed Death" below. Just don't be mad if you decide to dump your boyfriend as a result.
There are some makeup and hair habits guys just don't understand. We asked dating blogger Abraham Lloyd to weigh in on the beauty looks men don't get and can't stand. The upside? You get to spend less time primping.
Some of you may have missed it, but buried amongst plentiful Lady Gaga gems lies an especially interesting nugget about orgasms. She explains to the author of a recent New York magazine interview that acting classes she took during her youth helped her to fine-tune her imagination. From drinking out of an imaginary coffee cup, to thinking herself to an orgasm. Says Lady Gaga: "I don't know if this is too much for your magazine, but I can actually mentally give myself an orgasm. You know, sense memory is quite powerful." And, there, Lady Gaga managed to convey what researchers and sex therapists have been trying to communicate for years: when it comes to sex, it's all in our heads.
YourTango readers, meet Glo , a new women's website that is a collaboration between bigwig media companies MSN, Hachette Filipacchi Media U.S. and BermanBraun.
Few phrases are more easily misinterpreted than "We should hang out sometime." Such a simple statement only summons countless questions: First, is it an invitation or a polite suggestion? What does he mean by hang out? Does he mean hang out as pals or as something more? What was that tone of voice? What does he want us to do together? While it's a little awkward to ask someone directly whether or not we were just asked on a date, it can be even more embarrassing to misunderstand someone's intentions when you're out on the date (or non-date) itself.
Unvarnished.com, a user generated work review site that's still in beta, is kind of like the sleazy little sister to Linkedin.com. The site aims to help out employers with written reviews by co-workers of a person's actual performance on the job. Could this ruin a person's career and love life?
You can tell a lot about a man by how he acts in a strip club. I'm here to connect the dots, so you don't have to waste your time. Obviously, not all men frequent strip clubs, but all types of men do.
Redbook magazine editor in chief Stacy Morrison's new memoir, Falling Apart in One Piece (just out in bookstores), is a true confessional in every sense: Subtitled "One optimist's journey through the hell of divorce," the book begins just as Morrison's marriage begins to end. One minute she's swishing arugula through the salad spinner, and the next she's hearing her husband say, simply, that he's done. Here's her story.