Break ups are hard. And many of us spent the latter part of 2004 mourning the end of a great one with Sex and the City. But, once I've healed and gotten over a loss - do I really want to revisit the past? I'm feeling iffy about the Sex and the City movie coming out this May. Trailers are running rampant in theaters, with just enough tantalizing details to make me miss the Manolos, the men and the glammed up perspective of Manhattan. But with the closure that the last episode provided me, do I really need more?
We read a San Francisco Chronicle article this morning that stood out, mainly for the dollar signs. The piece profiles five matchmakers in the Bay area, all of whom make love connections the old-fashioned way. (No Internet introductions here.) But what you’re paying for, we suppose, is the quality customer service? The packages start at $2,000, but quickly sky-rocket. Says the article:
The hot-button question at our office today, from a newly-married guy: Was he allowed to look at other women in his wife's presence? "Nooooo," one woman squealed. "Ab-so-lu-tely not!" "And you don't need to crane your neck for her to notice," cautioned another. "We can detect if your very retinas shift slightly right or left." (It's true: one friend I know says the best way to determine if her date's gay or straight is watching to see if he takes microglances at her cleavage.)
Yes, you read that correctly. American men today are indeed taking a more active role in household chores, especially when both members of the house work full-time. The report from the Council on Contemporary Families, a national network of familial experts and researchers, states: "Men share more family work if their female partners are employed more hours, earn more money, and have spent more years in education." Not surprisingly, the report references a “general association between sharing housework and healthier marriages.” The more equal the division of labor, the less likely a couple is to divorce.
Moscow State Circus husband-and-wife team Anton and Nataliya Popazov are currently in the throes of a divorce. Nobody likes a split. (Boo, divorce!) Yet the couple must fulfill the remaining eight months of their contract with the circus. What, you may ask, do they perform? For one, Nataliya shoots—and will continue to shoot—an apple off of Anton's head with a crossbow. Yikes. As Anton told The Times of London, "I still trust her because Nataliya is very professional. It's not every man's cup of tea to have his ex-partner firing arrows at him every day, but the show must go on." We hope he offers her a healthy settlement…
The rate of porn consumption is up Down Under, and according to a government study, women are Australia's biggest growth sector. While the average Australian porn connoisseur is a 35-year-old male in a monogamous relationship, hot on his heels are the 17% of female Aussies—up from 10% just over a decade ago—who regularly dabble in the stuff. And that's changing what's on offer. The Australian authors of the new book The Porn Report, a 190-page probe into the use of X-rated materials Down Under, got down to the nitty-gritty: "We looked at 50 of the best-selling DVDS and videos and what was interesting was how many of them—16—were marketed to women or couples," co-author Alan McKee told the Courier Mail in Unveiling the Myths of Porn, adding that two new varieties of porn, in particular, are on the rise.
You may have read Genevieve’s recent “sexless marriage” post; cnn.com has run a pretty thorough companion piece worth mentioning. The basis for their “Surprising Reasons You’re Not Having Sex” article is this stat: “Women today have less time for sex than their 1950s counterparts. And it's estimated that 40 million Americans have what experts call a sexless marriage (having sex less than 10 times a year).” Okay, that does not sound good. Check out the article for common problems, such as body-image issues (duh), to not-so-common, like you’re bedroom’s way too boring (huh).
The truth is, some men are all about being pretty - it's the metrosexual movement that's swept much of the nation. Jeans that accent his - ahem - assets, Swedish moisturizers and expensive pedicures? Not just for you anymore. While some women are repulsed by it, many are excited that their man is taking care of himself in the best way for her. What's your take?
According to CNN, about 20 percent of American couples are in a “sexless” marriage, which therapists define as having sex approximately less than 10 times a year. While this shouldn’t be surprising information to us, as Americans recently ranked third to last on the lovemaking frequency scale... it still is.