Love Bytes: 10 must-click love and relationship links. Lemondrop asks us what we'd give up for an unlimited clothing budget: sex, chocolate or our best friend? Plus, hermaphrodites, 9/11 and Sex and The City.
And you thought the pre-date anxiety was the hardest part? Think again. Any serial dater knows the most infuriating time in the early stages of a relationship is the 24–48 hours that follow the first date. When's he going to call? Should you call him? What's an appropriate amount of time to wait? Here are some guidelines to keep in mind:
Money is a reliable source of tension in relationships, in both married couples and those not yet experiencing wedded bliss. According to one writer, "while talking about money can be often be more difficult and emotionally charged than talking about sex, religion or politics, a simple conversation about money can save you a lot of tension and resentments throughout married life." Here, six steps to a relationship free from money stress.
Mercury is in retrograde from now until the end of the month. And that means the stars have cosmically set you up for disaster and disappointment (at least that's what "they" say), which will be brought about by misunderstandings, technological snafus and flawed communication. We feel your pain at YourTango. This week, in order to help you out, we covered the secrets behind male/female communication, struggles with inter-generational romance, cheating spouses (should you tell?), and how to deal with his football addiction. We hope it gets you through the month, enjoy!
IllicitEncounters.co.uk a dating site in the UK says they notice an upswing in users right before a milestone birthday. Thirty-nine is the most popular date for people to sign up for IllicitEncounters.co.uk.
Are you a fan of Sex and the City? Do you have a career? Then you may be interested in The Broadroom, the new web series from Candace Bushnell—she of SATC, Lipstick Jungle and other fun depictions of modern woman.
I once dated a guy who clothed himself almost exclusively in band t-shirts, pleated trousers, and an ever-present fanny pack. (And no, he wasn't a German tourist.) I remember thinking when we met that I'd finally cast eyes upon the archetypal rock critic. That he actually was a rock critic made the experience all the richer. Because he was smart, funny and cute-ish, I chose to overlook his sartorial missteps and we quickly fell in love. But despite my best efforts—including renaming the fanny pack his "colostomy bag"—I never could convince him to spiff up.
It's Just Lunch, the online dating site for "busy professionals," teamed up with American Way (that magazine tucked into every American Airlines chair) to get into the mind of online daters. Some of the results were disheartening. For example, 66 percent decide within 30 minutes of a first date if they want a second or not. Twenty percent of the 16-39 age group are super hardcore and ready for the check after five minutes.
It was refreshing to click through Esquire's 75 Things You Don't Know About Women. Here's a round-up of some of our favorite female advice from celebrity women.
For some soon-to-be-married people, the most important thing about choosing the wedding date is the weather. For others, it's the availability of loved ones. But for those who place a special value on numbers, it's something a bit more straight-forward: the auspiciousness or memorability of the date itself. And for those particular couples, it doesn't get much better than today: September 9, 2009 (or 9.9.09).