After Atonement star Keira Knightley told a reporter that she and her mother discuss the actress's bedroom romps, the UK's Daily Mail asked three moms and their daughters to give intergenerational sex talks the thumbs up or the thumbs down. Seventy-six-year-old Molly, says, "talking openly about sex brings you closer, because then nothing is forbidden." Her daughter Sophie, 47, agrees: "Losing my virginity was a cause for a celebratory drink with Mum... Taking sex and yourself too seriously can have depressive consequences."
Tales of a 36-Year-Old Virgin is a series of incredibly moving posts on BlogHer by a woman calling herself Always Beginning the World. ABW describes how, during her first OBGYN exam, the doctor told her that her vagina was too small to have sex, use tampons or even receive a pap smear. Twenty years later she learned the doctor was wrong.
Now, we know that what floats one person's sexual boat can equate to a quickly sinking libido for others. Talking dirty can take some getting used to if it isn't your go-to, for example. It's the dachryphiliacs, those attracted to making one cry, and emetophiliacs, those attracted to vomit, who might have a tougher time working out their differences with their partners. According to one fetish poll, masochism seems to be the top ranking "alternative" sexual predilection, followed closely by odaxelagnia (biting) and xenophilia (attraction to foreigners), all of which are leaps and bounds more manageable than, say, coprophilia.
Didn't get your period and wondering exactly what time in your cycle that ex-sex escapade occurred? If memory escapes you, fall back on MyBlackBook, "The Internet's First Secure and Confidential Online Sexual History Tracker."
Ellen Fein, author of the 1995 juggernaut The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right, got married for the second time this weekend. (The first marriage ended in 2000, just as she the second Rules book came out, the one that promised "Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work." But nevermind.) The year after her divorce Fein went to a summer camp for singles where she met Lance Houpt, her future husband. The two connected as businesspeople; Fein is a best-selling author and Houpt owns two "decorative fabric and wallcovering companies."
Women for whom an orgasm can be more work than fun have a bevy of options waiting in the wings these days: lubricants, sex toys, G-spot shots, and now orgasm gels, among others. According to Metro.co.uk, the average woman's orgasm lasts 28 seconds but can be extended to last up to 107 seconds.
A UK shop selling lingerie for pregnant women has sparked so much controversy that the shopkeeper has moved "Emily," her baby bump-bearing mannequin, to the back of the store. According to the BBC, older residents of the North Yorkshire town where the shop opened eight weeks ago balked at the sight of a pregnant-looking mannequin in a black nursing bra. After initial complaints, the shopkeeper covered Emily with a camisole, but eventually moved her away from the store's window. She said:
The big event this weekend in relationship-land was, of course, the news that John Edwards admitted to cheating on his wife. Tango knows a bit about infidelity, and some of it may surprise you!
More than one million singles have logged on to the Lavalife, which claims to be the online dating site "where singles click." Cute. So hold onto your hats, folks, and get ready for this: whatever you're looking for (Date? Relationship? Fling?), Lavalife.com will hook it up. Amen to online dating. All cynicism aside, here's what Lavalife has going for it: the site separates users by what they're looking for, casual dating, a relationship or an intimate encounter. Other sites boast similar breakdowns but Lavalife goes one step furthur, using the same system to organize articles Click, its online magazine. Lavalife features a city guide, as well as LavalifePrime for singles over 45. An unscientific Love Buzz survey found that most regular members range from early twenties to late thirties.
After twenty-seven years full of trust, honesty, and passion, Melissa knew it was time to walk away from her longest standing relationship. So early in July, this spawn of the Carrie Bradshaw phenomenon put down her pen and severed ties with her diary-writing habit. And who can blame her? A long-term relationship with a 93-volume collection of notebooks would surely give me writers' cramp. Perhaps Melissa felt tied down. Needed space. Was just not that into it?