Expectant mothers have enough to worry about before giving birth: prenatal vitamins, home vs. hospital delivery, whether to become a stay-at-home mom or go back to work. Teen mothers have their own set of additional concerns, and now, it seems, so do mothers giving birth via Caesarean section. Via Jezebel: a recent Yale University study found that mothers who gave birth naturally have higher levels of brain activity in areas that signal motivation and emotion than those who underwent a C-section.
The New York Times agrees with Tango: teen marriages don't last. In fact, they're about two-and-a-half times more likely to end in divorce. According to the Times, in the 1950s the female marrying median age was 19, and nuptials in the second decade of life were so common the phrase "teen marriage" wasn't commonly used. Today the median age is 25.5. Teen brides may be less common today because fewer teen girls are getting pregnant, however the Times points out that there's no way to know how many of the 19-year-olds who married in the 1950s did so because they had a diaper-filler on the way.
Don't drink the water, don't smuggle drugs in or out - and don't have sex in public? Will that be the new advice given to vacationers on how to stay out of trouble on holiday? Too late for one couple: two Brits are currently on trial in Dubai, United Arab Emirates, for allegations they shagged on the beach despite strict Emerati rules against "sex outside of marriage" and "public indecency." The pair faces up to two years in prison for their romp!
Doesn't it seem like celebrities lives are in fast-motion? It may have to do with the fact that they are constantly being documented by the media; whether it be pictures from the paparazzi or reports from Ryan Seacrest and Giuliana Depandi on E! News. Whatever the case may be, it feels like average human beings are in limbo and celebs are like rockets shooting off from outer space.
When my shrink told me I seek out men like my father, I thought she just meant men who are psychologically similar! But it turns out scientists have discovered both men and women are physically attracted to partners who resemble their opposite-sex parent. The "sexual imprinting" study performed by the University of Pecs in Hungary examined 52 families of married couples and notes similar facial characteristics among wives and mothers-in-law, as well as husbands and fathers-in-law; the men had similar noses and eyes, whereas the women had similar lips and jaws. Score one for the Oedipus complex theory.
According to today's feature, The Pros and Cons of Marrying Young, pregnancy isn't a good reason to get hitched. "To marry simply because of a child seems to be a recipe for disaster. In fact, according to a 2007 study, only 17 percent of pregnant teenagers wed." Even so, young Hollywood starlets have been popping out offspring at an alarming rate, leading us to wonder, are babies the new boyfriends? Perhaps not, but boyfriends certainly lead to babies; in July, 2007 we reported that a Chinese doctor blamed the rising number of Shanghai teen pregnancies on youngsters meeting boys through the internet.
IM can be a great way to have serious conversations. Without the face-to-face pressure you're free to figure out exactly what you want to say, exactly which words will express your nuanced feelings. When you're angry and want to spit out the first mean phrase that you think of, IM provides a valuable break peddle; in the split second before pressing send you can decide if you really want to tell him that you've always hated the way he kissed. Of course, IMing at work has it's own risks: you can get called away for a conference call in the middle of an important conversation, and you can't fully immerse yourself in whatever overwhelming emotion you're feeling. But maybe even that's good; retaining a sliver of objectivity during excruciating conversations can put things in perspective. (The other downside: lost work time.)
That cheating husband of yours actually may not be heeding the call of his "little brain" and instead heeding the call of his "big" one: Swedish scientists found that heterosexual men with two copies of a gene variant (called an allele) were twice as likely to report marital problems. Women married to men with one or two copies of the allele also reported being less satisfied in their marriages, especially in regards to the couple's intimacy and ability to connect. The Washington Post calls the study "the first time that science has shown a direct link between a man's genes and his aptitude for monogamy. "
The United Nations estimates that 5,000 women worldwide are killed each year in the name of preserving a family's honor. The transgressions that these women commit to justify their deaths? Being raped, wearing Western clothing, marrying a man from the wrong sect or community, and communicating with men on Facebook, to name a few. Often, their brothers or fathers carry out the murders themselves. Pakistan is currently under the media lens after a member of its Parliament vindicated the mass killings of five women--three teenagers deemed guilty of dishonor after attempting to marry without their families' permission and two older women who tried to stop them from being killed--as "centuries old traditions," ones he vowed he would continue to defend.
You probably heard that news that John McCain's VP nominee Sarah Palin has a seventeen-year-old daughter, Bristol, who is pregnant and plans to marry the father. In today's New York Times there's a piece with the headline, "In Political Realm "Family Problem" Emerges as Test." Swap in the word "relationship" instead of "political," and you could be describing the experience of meeting your significant other's family. The questions in both the political and relationship realms are these: How much is someone's family a reflection of them, and should your lover's clan influence the decisions you make about him or her? In the relationship realm, someone's family probably isn't a