It never ceases to amaze me, the myriad of ways dudes manage to f**k up dates before they've even begun. I don't want to walk into a first date with a bad attitude, but if he has the gall to ask me out and then say, "Pick a place, but make sure it's cheap," I kind of can't help it. I'm not the kind of bitch who picks Chez Chic-Chic for a first date, but if you're on a budget, why don't you pick, dickwad? Anyhoo, though I make a decent living complaining about men on the internet, I do like to pay it forward by giving unsolicited advice. Here are ten ways a dude can ensure a date is going to be a slam dunk before it's even begun.
I confess: I'm an avid reader of the New York Times wedding announcements. I'm one of those people who religiously scans the Vows section every Sunday. I even watch the videos online. There's no better escape from my own banal reality than to read optimistic tales of romance that make me feel like we can all find a summa cum laude Harvard grad (who happens be descended from Thomas Jefferson) in our local bar. Whatever your level of interest in Vows, they're an institution. Enough so that there was a bit of an uproar lately when many of us opened up our Sunday papers to find a tale of infidelity leading the announcements.
Health.com has released a list of "10 Careers with High Rates of Depression," among them the artists, writers, entertainers category: "In men, it's the job category most likely to be associated with an episode of major depression (nearly 7% in full-time workers)." So what are jobs a potential male mate may have that could spell trouble for you down the line?
In the last year, it seems as though being single has been my specialty. While flings and hookups have come and gone (pun intended) and dates have left me with some less than desirable memories, my current single status has remained loyally by my side. I've learned a lot in the past year and I've discovered that single girls around the world are all in the same fabulous pair of shoes.
What to do when you have that sinking feeling that yours is not the only pillow your man has been fluffing? When you listen to that Whitney Houston "It's Not Right, But It's OK" song and suddenly find yourself relating to it? Should you just ignore it? Or go Jessica Fletcher on his ass and start snooping around, looking for concrete clues and confirmation that his recent interest in personal hygiene and the number of times he "accidentally" forgets to turn his cell phone on are actually indicators that he's cheating on you?
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Until now, little research has been done on how much lube can actually help enhance the female sexual experience. But leading sex researcher, Debby Herbenick, Ph.D. and her colleagues at Indiana University have concluded that women who use lube during sex have significantly more sexual pleasure and satisfaction than those who don't. In short, women who use lubricant have better sex, more orgasms, than those who don't.
Amy Pugh, 38, from Michigan initially used Facebook to gather her former classmates for their high school reunion. Only 10 days after the event, Pugh's husband abandoned her and their two young children for an affair with over Facebook. When Pugh revealed her situation to concerned classmates, nearly 250 of them teamed up to offer Pugh financial and material support. Take a guess at which website they used to organize their efforts.
You've heard the old adage: you have to put yourself out there if you want to find someone! Well, if you're sending out the wrong signals or you aren't pursuing the right kind of people, it won't matter how much you put yourself out there—you're still going to wind up empty-handed in the relationship department. Here are eight things that may be keeping you single if you don't want to be.
Conventional stereotypes say that women commit to men who can provide for a family. Since financial independence diminishes the need for a provider, wealthy women pursue younger, handsomer men who don't need to worry about supporting children. Basically, rich women are sugar mamas, while rich older women are cougars. But rich women don't want to be cougars; they want George Clooney.