The morning quickie: the perfect way to start your day. Read on for three interesting love and sex tidbits. Are you waiting for him to change his Facebook relationship status to "single" so you can swoop in? You may be a relationship status vulture. Are you a terrible person if you're relieved when your ex dies? And empty nest syndrome may not be as bad as once thought.
The post-coital blues are bigger than mere disappointment and more painful than outright embarrassment. They're a legitimate medical condition. And according to the New York Times, the most successful way to treat the condition is nearly as depressing as the post-coital blues themselves. Dr. Richard Freidman writes, "I thought that if I could somehow modulate my patients’ sexual response, make it less intense, it might blunt the negative emotional state afterward." In other words, Dr. Freidman decided that the best way to take his patients off their sexually induced emotional roller coaster rides was to make sex less fun.
Scientists are beginning to think human, sexual pheromones don't exist. Pheromones, we always thought, were the sexual chemicals that attracted people to one another. Now researchers say human beings don't even have the organs available to sense such a thing. Human beings do, however, have primer pheromones, which control physiological changes in the body. The reason why women's periods are sometimes in sync with one another. Instead, scientists think attraction is just good old-fashioned good looks and personality.
For all of its ridiculous moments*, last night's episode of The Bachelor made us realize one thing: the single parent experience is growing increasingly mainstream. Jason, the bachelor and single dad in question, has 10 remaining women on the show; two of them are single mothers, and all of them are gaga for his divorced self. The latest US census showed single parent homes have held steady at around 9 percent of all households for the past fifteen years. Meanwhile, the increase in popularity of online dating and the prevalance of divorce have made dating with children a common occurrence. In our not-so-distant past, unmarried or divorced parents risked facing judgment from the state, society and religious institutions for their status.
Those three little words are sometimes just that: three little words. If you need more than eight letters to express the enormity of your passion, you're short on evidence that the world has enough love to go around, or you'd just like to win your next game of "I-love-you-more-no-I-love-you-more," check out ILoveYouMoreThanBlank.blogspot.com. The site is part of a graphic design studio's endeavor to determine the real things–literally, figuratively, and often humorously– that people use to measure their love. Answer range from competitive ("I love you more than she loves you") to alarming ("I love you more than the smell of a fresh pack of Crayolas"? Put down the crayons, buddy!) but this blog sure puts Hallmark to shame.
"All you need is love." That's what the Beatles said, and it remains a pretty tempting. It doesn't matter how rich your husband is, right? If you love someone it doesn't matter if he's a jobless pauper—you'll make it work, somehow. Well, the Beatles didn't live through the recession of the late aughts—and some of today's women are realizing that their relationships are more dependent on money than they once believed.
The morning quickie: the perfect way to start your day. Read on for three interesting love and sex tidbits. Naomi Wolf takes on Andrea Dworkin's porn predictions, Barack Obama's lack of sex-appeal, and push presents.
A new study says we should strive to do the impossible—never fall victim to puppy love. Actually, the exact quote: "If you want to find happiness in later life, it is best to avoid puppy love altogether." In the new book Changing Relationships, a collection of love and relationship papers by British sociologists, the unanimous opinion seems to be that those vile, rose-colored lenses of youth make adult relationships less fulfilling. An adult relationship is a "calm" and "pragmatic" analysis of what one wants and needs, coupled with the reliability and dependability to make it happen. In fact, the sociologists say the qualities that most excite you right off the bat are often the ones that contradict what you'd actually need for a stable, solid relationship.
The inauguration of the 44th President of the United States, Barack Obama, is an event—like so many good and bad that capture the world's attention—that we'll look back on in years to come and recall vivid memories of where we were and whom we were with. For most of us, the obligations of daily life will keep us apart from our significant others at the time Obama takes his oath of office—or will they? While you might not be able to hold your man's hand, you can stay abreast of his thoughts via Twitter, text message or instant messaging. Take a cue from those in long distance relationships. In our increasingly tech-savvy world, we'll remember the websites where we first read that Obama clinched the nomination, how we pinged our friends and lovers during his Chicago acceptance speech and whether we watched the inauguration via TV or computer screen. Those of us not in DC to witness the events can watch themstreamed live on sites like Hulu or Joost.
Turns out researchers have found good enough reason. A new study done by the University College London and published in the Journal of Theoretical Biology shows that the longer you wait to seal the deal with the guy you're dating, the greater the chance that your relationship will last in the long haul. The study also found that men who can keep it in their pants longer are more reliable than those that can't, who are less likely to stick around for a relationship. In fact, accolade for women who wait is nothing new. In the late 1980's, a study of 5,232 married adults found that 12 percent reported marital dissatisfaction. Five years later, 78 percent of those who stuck it out in their "very unhappy marriages" said that their marriages were currently happy.