Every woman I know has been in this situation at one time or another, wondering whether the guy she's wasting—I mean, spending most of her time with is interested in her as a girlfriend or just a buddy. In my case, his name was Daniel. He'd flirt, drive me around in his cool vintage car, and generally make me feel like the coolest, prettiest, most fun girl in the world. We hung out 24/7. He was like my boyfriend, except he never made a move. Ever. I've never been one to play it cool, so my ginormous crush stank up every room we entered. I was too shy to actually articulate my feelings, but I eventually figured out that while he genuinely liked me, mostly he was using me for ego gratification while he pursued other women he actually wanted to get physical with. Things came to a head one night when I ran into Daniel while I was out at a bar with a spectacularly handsome, much younger French dude.
According to a recent study in Toronto, men and women have varying amounts of guilt depending on whether it's emotional or physical cheating. The scientists cornered 130 people and asked how guilty they would feel in a variety of situations, ranging from sex without love to love without sex. men actually feel more pangs of remorse when there's sex involved. Meanwhile, women rationalize physical infidelity better than men. Ladies feel guiltiest if they find themselves in an emotional entanglement, they say.
North Carolina teens have a new way of getting answers to the burning questions they have about sex but may be too embarrassed to ask aloud. Teens ages 14 to 19 can now text the Birds & Bees Text Line, launched in February 2009 by the Adolescent Pregnancy Prevention Campaign of NC, reports Jan Hoffman for the New York Times.
When I tell other women about my hour of self-imposed isolation, they seem to become anxious. Some feel that the desire to be alone, without the company of others, is unnatural and maybe even too self-indulgent. I've had women tell me they could never choose to take an hour of isolation because they have too many responsibilities.
Em and Lo's Wise Guys column—a regular feature asking three guys a sex/dating question—tackled hand holding, cuddling and the men who claim they don't like doing either this week. A worried reader wanted to know if a cuddle-phobic man she recently started dating is as he says or (those dreaded words) "just not that into me." The straight married guys says get rid of him, the married gay man says it's no biggie and the single guy says to look for other signs of he's not interested.
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The "housewife" title's a misnomer, as only three—Ramona, Jill and Alex—are actually married and Suzy Homemaker-style housewives they are not. But, Season Two of the show's been aflurry with relationship activity: the Countess divorcing, Bethenny on the prowl andevery "wife" tripping over herself for the chance to share dating tips. Here, we've created a Real Housewives report card with grades based on their own relationships and/or the love advice they dole out to others (er, Bethenny).
"Sex is everywhere in The Girlfriend Experience, except there's no sex," one critic commented. "We come to understand that Soderbergh is less interested in sex work than he is in work." And so it seems The Girlfriend Experience really is a movie based upon the relationships, not the raunchy bits, of Manhattan's highest paid hookers.
YourTango this week was just like the perfect man: powerful, sexy and bold. In case your liquid lunch did a number on your memory, here's what you missed.
No sex for you. That's what many Kenyan women are telling their men after years governmental tension and threats to revive violence.