Lately we've been talking a bit about breakups and the lessons we learn from relationships that have ended—but do men actually get more out of a "failed" relationship than women? A guy friend of mine, let's call him Adam, says—and we're both aware that this is generalization—that men are almost always better boyfriends in their next relationship than they were in the one that came before it. Hence the reason why women can sometimes be heard complaining, post-breakup, something along the lines of, "The girl who gets him next is getting all of the benefits of my hard work! He wasn't this sensitive/emotional mature/considerate when we first started dating—I had to teach him all that! And now some other chick is going to get to enjoy all those things, having no idea that it was my doing. No fair!" C'mon, you know you've at least thought something similar about an ex. I know I have!
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Over the years, thanking your significant other has become commonplace at award ceremonies. Now, we just expect to hear some spouse-gratitude in pretty much every acceptance speech. But luckily, scattered between all the average shout-outs, are some super-sweet moments laced with a touch of romantic sentiment. With this list, we count down our top ten favorites.
Going into Hall Pass, the latest Farrelly brothers comedy, I was prepared for gross-out humor, full-frontal nudity, and some new sexual slang. And I got it. But the same men responsible for Dumb and Dumber and There's Something About Mary also offer some interesting insight into long-term relationships. I'm not saying they've earned YourTango Expert status, but there's some food for thought in that soup of gags and groans.
Interracial dating is cool, right? Not if you're a white online dater, apparently. Researchers at the University of California, Berkeley, studied more than 1 milion online dating profiles to find that whites prefer dating other whites, while young black males are more open to dating outside of their race.
According to a 2008 survey from Vault, 58 percent of respondents reported doing just that -- by being involved in an office romance. Follow these office romance dating rules to keep your love life and career on track.
We cannot wait for Oscar night, can you? The Academy Awards ceremony is Hollywood's premier event, and we sort of have a weakness for star-studded gatherings. Do you blame us? The designer gowns, the gold statuettes, the hot guys in tuxes... Sigh. But while the actors are getting dressed up to go out with their dates, we think you should stay in with yours. There are plenty of ways to have a fun Oscar-themed date night with your man before, during and after the telecast, so use this as a little guide for a the big evening. If you can't win an Oscar yourself, watching a few stars win one while getting closer to your S.O. really is the next best thing.
As a 16-year-old, seduced by checkered Vans and studded belts, I found my match in this scene. Tim was older, 21, and a True Love Waits virgin. True Love Waits is a contract that you have with, like, "God" and the community or something. It is a vow that you will not have sex until you're married. The church-going kids would bring the contracts to school and teachers would pass them out during class, encouraging us to sign. Afterward, the names of kids who signed would run in the town's newspaper. Which also printed the names of everyone who'd been arrested that day and for what.
In a major victory for same-sex couples and gay rights activists, President Obama declared The Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional today. Obama for his part has been criticised throughout his term for not repealing the measure sooner. Throughout the past few months, several lawsuits have been filed arguing that DOMA is unconstitutional, but the court has remained steadfast in its defense. Obama ran in 2008 as a supporter of civil unions and today claims his ideas of gay marriage are "evolving" and he finds the act "unnecessary and unfair."
All the hoopla about how the internet has changed dating is so 2001. These days, we're gushing over how smartphone apps are transforming the way we meet people, sext, break up and cheat. Thanks to mobile-based calendars, emails and location services, it's virtually impossible for smartphone owners to commit the usual first date hijinks, like getting lost or being unable to call for a rain check. Now, two practical new apps may make dating even easier by helping New Yorkers find free condoms in the city, and by ensuring that emergency contacts know that you made it through a first date without getting roofied or kidnapped.