The New York Times had an interesting piece about kids today and how they use Facebook as a tool to air their relationship dirty laundry. The Times seems to think this might be harmful to relationships and may signify a degradation of the sanctity of marriage. Should relationship problems be shared on Facebook?
So the day of reckoning has arrived. For the past month, your friends have been clamoring to meet your new guy, but alas, the how-do-you-do's were largely anticlimactic. Are your friends unsupportive? Was everyone in a bad mood? Or was your boyfriend just not that impressive? Everyone knows that love is blind, and no matter how confident we are in our choices, sometimes our friends are just better at analyzing our partners than we are. Here are things your friends might have observed about your guy that escaped your notice:
The not knowing and the waiting for the next phone call are always worse than just hearing the truth: that he started seeing someone else, that he got back together with his ex, that—pardon the cliché—he just wasn't that into you. Do I expect a guy who isn't interested after one drinks-date to tell me that he doesn't see a future together? Of course not—he'd sound so presumptuous. And trust me, I've pulled the disappearing act many a time. But past the get-to-know-you point, don't we deserve to know where things went awry? I say yes. But because it's easier not to address these topics, I've never gotten a straight explanation—at least without prompting—until now. Truthfully, I hadn't been 100 percent sold on this guy, but I was having fun for the time being and, frankly, there was no reason not to keep seeing him. We liked the same bar band and, as it turns out, had been at the same concert years ago. He suggested one of my favorite restaurants for our second date but was cool with just watching "The Office" on our fourth. (That he felt it appropriate to make out with me in the middle of "The Office" was slightly less promising.) And when he woke up at my apartment and suggested that, rather than going downstairs, we just order bagels and coffee and catch up on TV, it felt like he had read my mind: That is exactly how I want to spend a slightly hung-over Saturday morning. Basically, we seemed to have a fair amount in common, and he seemed like a good guy. (Plus, he was tall.) I was trying not to dismiss the relationship too quickly, as I'm prone to do, and, instead, listening to my mom's advice, was hoping sparks would develop. That's when I found he had come to the same conclusion I had—and decided not to drag it out.
We said a collective, "awww," after reading this story about Alan and Jan Coupe, winners of the Slimming World Couple of the year award, who lost 210 lbs between them after being told that they were too heavy to sit together on an airplane. To lose weight, the couple joined a weight-loss program, altered their diets, and began bike-riding and swimming together. Romantic, right? Now, the Coupes are almost unrecognizable. We love the idea of staying fit as a couple—not just for the obvious health benefits, but also for the bonding experiences. We're not sure how many of these weight-loss methods Alan and Jan tried, but we figure that the happy couple would approve.
Women can ask men out. In exchange, men will not judge the woman who asks them out.
According to the Office of National Statistics, lip gloss has replaced lipstick as the must-have on-the-go beauty item. The Daily Mail refers to this switch as "recessionista fashion," and BBC News points to it as a sign of inflation. But is the economy the real cause of gloss's new reign?
When we're hungry, it's simple—we eat. When we're thirsty, we drink. But what about when you just want to and need to be touched? There are no touch cafés. Touch doesn't come as a gift with purchase at the Lancôme counter. And if you're not in a romantic relationship, how do you fill up your touch tank to full? There are often not enough outlets for affection in platonic relationships. Friends provide emotional support, memorable nights out, advice and adventures, but few friendships are so close that it's comfortable and acceptable for you two to, say, snuggle on the couch together, or hold each other in a longer-than-usual embrace—one long enough to communicate sincerity but short enough not to be awkward. The line becomes especially blurred if you're of compatible sexual orientations, because, oh my god, then it must mean you like each other. But wanting to be touched is a basic human need. (Without it, we're so much more susceptible to depression, stress, anxiety, loss in self-confidence and loss in drive and motivation!) And sadly though not surprisingly, we live in a touch-deprived culture that’s comfortable with touch only if it has sexual meaning, if we're celebrating, if someone is consoling or being consoled, or if it involves raising our kids.
The most expensive wedding, the longest marriage, the tallest and shortest married couples and the biggest wedding cake. 10 wow-worthy wedding and marriage records.
While the country's cloudy weather and castles may conjure up images of red hair, freckles and mash, Ireland also boasts quite an impressive list of controversial lovers. Here's a crash course in some of Ireland's most passionate fleshbots throughout history, in honor of St. Patrick's Day.
It is no secret that alcohol and dating share a volatile but intimate relationship, especially on St. Patrick's Day. In fact, for the most part the two go hand-in-hand. The key is to reach a level of intoxication that has you feeling loose and confident, not nauseated and belligerent. (Read: don't stumble over there and grab his crotch or bellow in her ear.) Because despite your previous finding-true-love-at-a-bar experiences, sometimes two people actually DO meet when they're drunk and manage to form a connection that lasts longer than a hangover. Who knows, maybe that guy over there with the green party beads who's doing a shot of Jameson is your soul mate. So we've compiled a few dating tips to help you make a drunken connection that won't damage your dignity.