Congratulations! The upbeat, All-American-esque cutie you met last week has asked you out on date. You're pretty darn happy for yourself, but let's face it, you're also dying on the inside of nervousness. Never fear — luck is on your side, as are we. Follow our six tips for first date preparation and tell us how your night turned out:
There's a reason the little black dress is a such a classic. We went through our closets and pulled out our top three favorites for date night.
Five ways couples can spend their tax returns together. According to a report by USAToday.com, tax refunds are up by 10 percent this year, with estimates at around $3,036 for the average American. We're going to advise that all of you be responsible and spend a good three-quarters of that on something useful (paying off debt, adding to your IRA, etc.) But the other quarter? Why not spend it on a fun date night, sexy gift or travel with your main squeeze.
Online dating. Yes. We said it. And, as it so happens, we've done it, too. The once super taboo, let's-come-up-with-another-story-about-how-we-met form of meeting people is becoming ever more popular in a culture that has less and less free time and fewer real opportunities to be introduced to the right people. We do everything else online—so why not meet people there, too? To all you single-and-looking ladies out there who might think, "Uh, I'm not sure if I'm ready for that," hopefully we can help ease you into it. Because as weirded out as our parents (and even our own friends) may be by the idea, the Matches, eHarmonys, and OKCupids of the dating realm will only become ever more prevalent in the coming years, especially for working—and over-worked—professionals. What's more, your pool of singletons has grown even larger in the past year, thanks to an economy-in-shambles. With less money to spend on entertainment (and let's face it, more time at home for those unlucky enough to have lost their jobs), people are spending more and more time online than out and about. Instead of their local watering hole, singles are perusing the online personals for dates. What does this mean for you? It means you've got more talent to choose from than ever before. And when it comes to finding your match, choice means the difference between swooning and settling.
A columnist for The Frisky takes a break from her regularly scheduled "Sex with Susannah" programming to bring you breaking news from the "everything your mother never told you about sex" front. During the course of writing her column, receiving reader letters and writing about sex and relationships, it's come to her attention that there are some basic sex facts it would behoove everyone to know... especially the ladies.
"I specialized in pretty hardcore scenes—what we called corporal scenes. Sort of the meaner scenes," she tells Lemondrop. "Which was interesting, because it didn't seem to fit with my personality. I didn't like those sessions at the beginning. You start by doing the 'sensual sessions' that look like flirty behavior... but that just started to feel uncomfortable—too close to reality. I worked hard not to engage my sexuality in the job. So there was something thrilling about acting out this mean, violent persona. It was so far from who I was or who I'd ever been." Although we've only just met her, we believe her. It's hard to imagine this sweet-sounding professor ever trussing up a naked man like a turkey or, say, dunking his head underwater. But remember—those guys asked her to do it, they paid her for it, and all we have to say is, she worked hard for her money. As if her book weren't revealing enough—and trust us, it is!—Febos agreed to share even more. In her own words, below are 10 Things You Don't Know About My Life As a Dominatrix:
Love Bytes: 10 must-click love and relationship links, including Wikipedia's list of bizarre sex positions and science explains why men should be honest.
You don't need your entire hair and makeup arsenal to fix these beauty mishaps. Check your guy's medicine cabinet for budget-friendly saves for these common beauty disasters.
People are always asking how they'll know when they've found The One, when it's time to settle down for good and get married. But what I'm here to tell you is, you may already be "married" and not even know it. I've been in an unmarried long-term relationship for years, which comes with its fair share of marginalization. No matter how long you've been committed to somebody, most people won't really recognize the capital-S Seriousness of your partnership without the "legally binding" part. Look, guys—there are more things that bind two people together forever than a marriage license. As everybody who's been in a long-term relationship—married or not—knows, there's much more to being married than the piece of paper from the city hall. So I've prepared a some handy proof for us marrieds to keep on hand for the inquisitive and unbelieving. Caution—if you're in a loving, committed partnership, you may be more married than you think.
What if our employers catered to a shattered relationship like they did the flu? What if a philandering boyfriend or husband was treated like a heart attack, and your boss not only encouraged time off but shuddered at the thought of returning at less then 100 percent. In an ideal world, our employers could help our relationships stay healthy and strong.