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Picky People Can Find Love, Too

Fake personal ad on Craigslist reveals neurotics can find love.

Earlier this week, I wrote about a questionable Craigslist personal ad that a supposed "SWF "had posted, listing her highly specific requirements for a man. Thankfully, the ad—calling for a man with such particular qualities as owning three to five North Face items—was fake. Boinkology created the listing to test how well a neurotically picky woman would fare in the online dating sea. Apparently, the response was surprisingly positive.

The Four-Hour Erection

The Four-Hour Erection

Prolonged erections are known as priapism, and they happen to women too!

You've heard the warnings on the Viagra commercials saying that if your erection lasts longer than 4 hours you should call a doctor. Well, in this piece, MSNBC explores prolonged erections, known as priapism. These ultra hard-ons don't come from being turned on and they don't go away after you orgasm. They occur when the penis fills with blood, as in a normal erection, but for some reason it's unable to get out. Apparently they're extremely painful, and really do need a professional's attention. A doctor will drain the blood, either with a needle or surgical shunt. Ouch. Thankfully they're also pretty rare, and almost never related to ED pills.

Is Your Soul Mate An Ex Lover?

Is Your Soul Mate An Ex Lover?

The Ex-List follows Bella, who sifts through exes to find her soul mate.

Imagine visiting a psychic for a reading into your future and finding out that your soul mate not only exists, but that you have already met him. This is the gist of CBS's new fall romantic comedy, The Ex-List, set to air this September. Elizabeth Reaser (famous for her role as Alex's patient/love interest on Grey's Anatomy) stars as Bella, who learns from the mysterious psychic that she must find her soul mate and marry him within a year, or else she will remain single forever. This leaves Bella revisiting her past relationships in order to find "the one".

Dress Shopping For A Second Wedding

Dress Shopping For A Second Wedding

Go on-trend with an asymmetrical, short dress with a flared skirt.

Today's Washington Post has a slideshow of the best dresses for second weddings. Eleven percent of engaged women and 17% of men said their upcoming nuptials would not be their first, according to a Conde Nast poll. Second time around, brides tend to choose gowns that are very different from what they wore at their first wedding. And red carpet events and celebrity weeklies that showcase fanciful frocks are fueling both brides' and designers' desires for creative wedding dresses.

The "New Infidelity"

The "New Infidelity"

Is masturbation kind of like cheating?

Some husbands diddle their secretaries at the office. Other husbands diddle... themselves. Maybe jerking off at home wasn't private enough? On the Details blog, sex writers Em & Lo talked to a husband and wife couple struggling—yes, struggling—with hubby's masturbation. The wife griped:

Is This Personal Ad Real?

SWF posts Craigslist personal ad outlining 38 requirements for a mate.

This morning one New York woman—a veteran of every online dating site under the sun—posted a pièce de résistance of a personal ad on Craigslist. The title "SWF who isn't asking too much" was written (hopefully) with tongue firmly in cheek, as what follows is a list of more than 38 qualities her Mr. Right must have. That is, if you call owning "more than 3 items from The North Face jacket line but no more than 5" a quality. A few highlights from the reportedly 32-year-old single, white female's list:

Marriage: It's All About The Money

Marriage: It's All About The Money

Seven steps to a financially successful union.

According to the New York Times, when it comes to marriage, financial compatibility is more important than romantic compatibility. The paper posits that even though these days love usually takes precedent over loot, "marriage at its core is still a financial union" and your partner's spending habits have a massive impact on your monetary situation and happiness. They quote a divorce lawyer who says money is a "huge factor in breaking up marriages." Hopefully you'll marry your financial soul mate, but if you don't, the Times has some hints for pecuniary harmony.

Purity Rings Hot in Hollywood!

Purity Rings Hot in Hollywood!

Young celebs are sporting abstinence bling.

What do The Jonas Brothers, Miley Cyrus, and Jordin Sparks all have in common? None of them are getting laid. According to each of the stars, they are A-okay with it. In fact, they’re promoting their virginity by sporting the ever-so-trendy purity rings, which stand for abstinence. (I wonder if Bristol Palin was wearing hers before she got knocked up?)

An American Wife

An American Wife

What's it like being married to the President of the United States?

Do you ever think about Laura Bush? May sound like a strange question, but it's really not: Do you ever consider what life must be like for the woman married to the most powerful man in the world? The author Curtis Sittenfeld is picking up the slack. She has parlayed a deep fascination with Laura into the 558-page novel, American Wife, which imagines the courtship and marriage of a librarian named Alice and her hard-drinking, baseball-team-owning, born-again husband Charlie Blackwell. Through good times and hardship, a doting Alice stands by Charlie's side—all the way to the White House. (Did I mention she even imagines their sex life, too?)

Essential (Obvious) Flirting Tips

Essential (Obvious) Flirting Tips

Study reveals that telling him you like him will make him like you back.

Today's revolutionary finding comes from The University of Aberdeen, where researches found that people interpret eye-contact and smiling as signs that you like them, and these social cues make them reciprocate the love. Telling someone you like them is another way to up your attraction factor. Who woulda thunk it?