Love Bytes: Three must click sex, dating and relationship links. Kissing advice, striptease tips, and the health benefits of sperm.
1. Keep all your guys in one place. While The Bachelorette gets to live all by her lonesome in a big, beautiful mansion, her men sleep side by side on bunk beds in the Bachelor Barracks. This strategic move was made a few seasons ago in an effort to separate the "stinky" from the selected few. One by one, the men are invited to move into the mansion with Jillian but only after she's memorized their name and has extended them a special rose. This smart maneuver teaches us that distance does make the heart grow fonder, especially when it comes to dating multiple men. The last thing a girl needs when she's got more than one guy on her mind is a pop quiz around every corner.
One of the classic complaints women have about men is the never-subtle wandering eye. Whether it's checking out the cute waitress, staring at the girl at the bar or even just the too-long glances at friends, men constantly seem to be checking out the females within eyesight. Most of these men whose eyes linger lustily don't actually want to make a move, but they do enjoy seeing a nice-looking woman (remember how visual men are?). Regardless, women never seem to enjoy watching their partner watch another pretty lady.
Oh, what times they must have been. In the '70s writer Gay Talese was in throes of research, working on a novel. This wasn't just any reporter's notepad, though. His research involved scouting out massage parlors and trailing orgies with a crew of New York City couples.
According to a new study cited in The New York Times, infidelity is on the rise. The study also concluded that young women are closing the gap on what has largely been thought of as bad behavior for men—apparently, nearly as many women are cheating on their partners and spouses. This did not surprise me in the slightest—a large number of women I know in my age group have cheated on boyfriends. So why do women cheat? What are the circumstances that led to their infidelity? And how did they feel about it in the aftermath? After the jump, 13 anonymous confessions from women who have cheated.
For whatever reason, Brooker decided to write an essay about how he thinks women should take over for the next decade. "A 10-year prohibition on all forms of male power," he writes. Lock men up in a room "with some lego" and have the fairer sex fix all the bobble-headed mistakes these brutish lads have made. Men are nothing more than a false "swagger" he says who have"bollocksed the planet up." Bollocksed! And if you think Barack Obama—the left-leaning savior—is exempt from this, you're dead wrong. You see, Obama made the grave mistake of being born a man. So therefor he's doomed and just as bollocks-y as one of the guys from Oasis. "Oh, you. Pretty, silly you. We've got you brainwashed. See, that's what our incessant, ruinous swaggering was all about: pretending to be more complex and dangerous than we actually are. In truth your suspicions are correct: we're very, very simple. We're lazy and we like blowjobs. That's all there is to us. Literally: that's it. From Sir John Betjeman to Barack Obama, from Copernicus to Liam Gallagher. The core software we run on could fit in the memory of a digital watch circa 1985 without even scraping the sides."
Love Bytes: Four must click sex, dating and relationship links. Midday dating, confusing dating advice, and the economy of moving in together.
When enmeshed in the search for love, it can be difficult to determine whether it should be something we find or something that we decide to do. Many people experience the romantic love story. But a lot of couples find love to be something more learned and practiced. For people who are still hunting, it's difficult to decide whether to view it as a noun or a verb. Louise Rafkin has been interviewing couples and telling their love stories in a weekly column in the San Francisco Chronicle for the past couple years. As someone who is still searching for the one, she pondered the question of love and how to attain it in Modern Love in the New York Times.
In Bad Mother, author Ayelet Waldman encourages women to aspire to be "not bad" mothers and resist the pressure to meet the extremely high standards of success that society has for women and motherhood. Waldman wants women to stop trying so hard and just be. She argues that mothers can and should be honest, flawed, and, yes, selfish sometimes—your ability to care for your children will not suffer. Discuss: Which is harder: marriage or motherhood?
Children whose parents treat each other violently are more likely to have mental difficulties as adults finds a study from the National Institute of Health and Medical Research in Paris, France, reports Science Daily. When researchers carried out in-person interviews with more than 3,000 adults they measured intimate partner violence, violence against children, lifetime suicide attempts and current level of depression.