To paraphrase the song, most people are lookin' for love advice in all the wrong places. Sure you can bore a therapist for $100 dollars-an-hour, buy dozens of self-help books, or ask Dr. Drew, but you're just wasting your time. That's right, all the riddles of the dating universe can be answered at the movies, and in anticipation of the 2011 Oscar Academy Awards we've chosen some of our favorite flicks from the past year to relay their pearls of wisdom to you. Nine films, nine Academy Award-worthy nominations for best romantic axiom. Here we go:
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On February 13, 2011, YourTango celebrated the very first annual Break Up With Your Ex Day, a day on which we urged people to let go of painful memories, insidious social media connections and dead weight relationship baggage in an attempt to move on in both love and life. We asked you to unfollow, untag, delete, block and erase. How did YourTango readers do?
In what's being lauded as a victory for the LGBT community, Facebook has added civil unions and domestic partnerships as relationship statuses for users in the United States, Canada the United Kingdom, France and Australia. The feature, which went into effect last Thursday, allows you to choose either of those options (or "in a Civil Partnership," for those in the UK), in the drop-down menu of familiar statuses like "Married," "in a Relationship," and "it's Complicated."
Relationships are an integral part of our real lives, so it's only fitting that they take center stage onscreen as well. Love-themed story lines were woven throughout this year's Oscar-nominated films, making for gripping, tragic, thrilling and wonderful entertainment. For better of for worse, some of the strongest cinematic moments focused on relationship dynamics, and we gleaned a few helpful lessons from the characters' struggles and triumphs. Take a look at the best onscreen pairings of the year, and then tune into the Academy Award telecast on February 27 to see which of them will score precious Oscar gold.
Sure, these days when I get dressed I have to think carefully about which outfit will make me feel least like a tightly squeezed sausage about to be fried in my overheated office. And sure, at this exact moment, the majority of my butt is covered in swollen red pus balls from a terrible case of poison oak I got while hiking in Big Sur. (Ok, I admit it, it was actually while popping a squat in Big Sur.) But mainly, I find myself looking around and thinking, Everything is awesome.
60 couples who had been dating two years or more were split into two groups and paired up to have conversations. Half the couples were instructed to just make small talk, the other half were given specific, emotionally-laden topics to discuss. Three months later, none of the small talk couples had kept in touch, but 1/3 of the deep discussion couples had actually become friends. (Let this be a lesson to us all—small talk does not a friendship make.) The 33% of couples who made new friends in the name of science reported feeling more "excited, enthusiastic, happy and closer to their partner" when compared with all the other couples involved in the study.
Smell and taste expert Dr. Alan Hirsch—whose last study showed that the smells that turn women on vary by where you live (coffee in NYC, grass in Minnesota)—explained that some of the soft drink's ingredients actually can affect how you feel inside. Vanilla and caramel, he says, make us feel secure and comfortable, while orange and lemon oils, as well as cinnamon, make you feel awake.
If you have romance in mind—and who doesn't in February—you might want to avoid the garlic clams or onion rings. According to an online survey sponsored by Listerine, bad breath was the no. 1 turn-off when it came to dating. Even rude behavior and cheapness were considered more forgivable.
So what does a male orgasm feel like? Do orgasms differ drastically between the sexes? We take stock of what we know and ask four men for the inside scoop on their experience of the Big O.