A new study says we should strive to do the impossible—never fall victim to puppy love. Actually, the exact quote: "If you want to find happiness in later life, it is best to avoid puppy love altogether." In the new book Changing Relationships, a collection of love and relationship papers by British sociologists, the unanimous opinion seems to be that those vile, rose-colored lenses of youth make adult relationships less fulfilling. An adult relationship is a "calm" and "pragmatic" analysis of what one wants and needs, coupled with the reliability and dependability to make it happen. In fact, the sociologists say the qualities that most excite you right off the bat are often the ones that contradict what you'd actually need for a stable, solid relationship.
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The inauguration of the 44th President of the United States, Barack Obama, is an event—like so many good and bad that capture the world's attention—that we'll look back on in years to come and recall vivid memories of where we were and whom we were with. For most of us, the obligations of daily life will keep us apart from our significant others at the time Obama takes his oath of office—or will they? While you might not be able to hold your man's hand, you can stay abreast of his thoughts via Twitter, text message or instant messaging. Take a cue from those in long distance relationships. In our increasingly tech-savvy world, we'll remember the websites where we first read that Obama clinched the nomination, how we pinged our friends and lovers during his Chicago acceptance speech and whether we watched the inauguration via TV or computer screen. Those of us not in DC to witness the events can watch themstreamed live on sites like Hulu or Joost.
Turns out researchers have found good enough reason. A new study done by the University College London and published in the Journal of Theoretical Biology shows that the longer you wait to seal the deal with the guy you're dating, the greater the chance that your relationship will last in the long haul. The study also found that men who can keep it in their pants longer are more reliable than those that can't, who are less likely to stick around for a relationship. In fact, accolade for women who wait is nothing new. In the late 1980's, a study of 5,232 married adults found that 12 percent reported marital dissatisfaction. Five years later, 78 percent of those who stuck it out in their "very unhappy marriages" said that their marriages were currently happy.
When do you tell your date that you're in an open relationship? Before you start dating? Then you might scare people away. But if you tell them afterwards they may feel that you've mislead them. This week's New York Times Modern Love essayist wasn't too pleased when, before her second date with a man she calls The Engineer, her new date told her that he had another girlfriend.
According to an article in the London Times Online, men who make the most money are also excellent at giving women orgasms. Logically, it doesn't seem that a money would make sex better, but scientists seem to think the old cliche of women flocking to well-off men is just as much a hard-wired truism as men flocking to large breasts. We're at all times on the hunt for a mate with the "best genes." It's evolutionary Darwinism.
The morning quickie: the perfect way to start your day. Read on for three interesting love and sex tidbits. Money tension may not be that bad, male engagement rings and sex toys on sale.
A recent study published in the European Urology journal is saying men who garden, dig or mow the lawn for a minimum of 30 minutes a week have an easier time getting and maintaining an erection. Researchers at the Medical University of Vienna are claiming a newfound interest in tending to weeds, flowers and plants can "dramatically improve a man's performance in bed." By a third, they say. As it turns out, it isn't the relationship with flowers and the outdoors that gets a man's penis revving—it's the exercise. Men who burn as little as 1,000 extra calories a week reduces their risk of impotence. Men who go the extra mile and burn 4,000 calories a week can improve their circulation in such a profound way that it more than halves their risk of erectile dysfunction.
As unique as we all like to think we are, there's more lemming in us than we realize. Not only are our actions open to suggestion, as previous studies have shown, so are our opinions about non-essential things like beauty. A new study explains that we have our unconscious brain to thank for that.
In life, as in relationships, its wise to take the Goldilocks approach to romance. Too much may burn you with heartache and regret; too little might leave you feeling frosty and brittle. Paris, with its romantic reputation, seems to throw this delicate balance well out of whack. Decades of pop culture have done a number on our expectations for the city. Hemingway Disappoint In Revolutionary Road, (movie & book) Forget Paris? SATC The cultural references associated with romantic overload—Valentine's Day and feel-good films, for example—invoke a mean backlash, often involving outcries over the way romantic comedies warp our brains and V-Day serves as an excuse to make Hallmark more money.
You like to shop, and he likes to save. He likes to smoke, and you like to breath. He wants to pee on you in the shower, but you would rather lather alone. Couples inevitably find themselves butting heads from time to time, and some contend that this is healthy as long as fangs remain concealed. Nonetheless, resolving arguments is seldom simple, and so Sidetaker.com offers a novel service that takes the guesswork out of deciding who is right and who is wrong. Settling your argument on Sidetaker.com is a reasonable way to put an issue to rest once and for all: by promoting you and your guy to communicate, and enlisting a jury of strangers to submit their two sense. We know it may sound a little Jerry Springer. But it's cheaper than therapy and sure beats his mom.