We've written a lot about how marriage is a financial arrangement, that romance eventually fizzle, and how having kids can make your once-bottomless libido as dry as an unused diaper. So it would seem to be common knowledge that passion, while important in the beginning of a relationship, isn't what makes a marriage work. But according to a new study from researchers at the University of Iowa, since the 1930s traits like dependability and stability have become fallen in importance, while lust and love have risen. Have Hollywood myths and the fetishization of romance messed up our ideas about what we should look for in a mate?
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A recent Op-Ed piece in The New York Times suggests that children have the potential to deteriorate (and even end) a marriage. This is especially true, it says, for couples where the child happens by accident, or if one parent procreates out of obligation and not desire. More than 25 separate studies have established that marital quality drops, often quite steeply, after the transition to parenthood. And forget the “empty nest” syndrome: when the children leave home, couples report an increase in marital happiness.
Orgasms can be mysterious, mind-blowing, lengthy, elusive or—as we just learned—hands-free. From Em & Lo comes the tale of a college freshman who attends a "How To Have A Genderless Orgasm" workshop in lieu of his art history class. Led by Barbara Carrellas, author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century, the students go through breathing, muscle-contracting and chakra balancing exercises to reach climax.
If you've woken up in a cold sweat after experiencing one of these nightmares, it's probably not the first time, nor the last. A new study from the University of West England has found that women suffer from more frequent nightmares than men. The study categorized women's nightmares into three categories (fearful dreams, losing a loved one, or confusing dreams) and found that their reoccurring dreams tend to corroborate with real life trauma. Are women really damsels in distress or are we simply–dare I say–more emotional? According to the study, women do have more emotionally intense dreams than men. And she-dreams were reportedly less pleasant, with more misfortune, self-negativity and failure than he-dreams. Bleak!
According to a survey by the National Retail Federation, flash is out in 2009. Wealthy folks are cutting back in lavish V-day gifts, but not necessarily because they can't afford them. According to Reuters, who interviewed a luxury marketing researcher, "the super-wealthy were anxious about 'being labeled as ostentatious' and were 'pulling back substantially.'"
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Is all this sex, sex, sex, on our screens and pages, wrecking havoc on our psyches? Is this new-ish womanly liberation warped and maybe a little unhealthy for our delicate, female minds? Rowan Pelling, who perfected smart smut for eight at years at The Erotic Review, finds two really big problems with the recent wave of erotic writers and sex bloggers. For starters the writing isn't that good, and it glamourizes being promiscuous, when bed-hopping is really nothing to brag about.
When He's Just Not That Into You, Liz Tuccillo and Greg Behrendt's book about identifying dead-end relationships, debuted in 2006 it empowered confused women everywhere to move out and move on (well, at least it happened that way on Oprah). This "you go, girl" attitude arrived to the big screen Friday, February 6. The movie version has a celeb-studded cast including Drew Barrymore, Jennifer Aniston, Ben Affleck, Justin Long (the Mac guy and Drew's ex) and Scarlett Johansson.
A woman was taking the pill and, contrary to anything she'd ever known or expected, get pregnant. With twins. And then it happened again.