I don’t know whether it’s my overdeveloped single cynicism or simply that the metrosexual trend for guys has not made its way out yet, but I feel like every man I date is secretly homosexual. Maybe I’m being dramatic but I do feel like lately I’ve been getting the gay end of the stick, so to speak. This all came together for me last week when I went on a first date with a guy named Danny – the second guy I matched at speed dating. Danny is a dancer, an ensemble cast member of a very popular Broadway show, with a sexy, muscular frame that would make Will Smith in "I Am Legend" (yum) look flabby. And he models a little too. This alone piqued my gaydar but I ignored it, wishing and hoping.
The finale for Tila Tequila's Shot At Love took a wild turn. Tila chose Kristy Morgan to be her one and only. And Kristy Morgan turned her down. Fireworks? Check. Waterworks? Check. Easy way to transition to a 3rd season? Check. Well done, MTV. Well done.
New research suggests that heterosexual women are equally turned on by men and women, reports The New York Times. It's not gender, says Dr. Meredith Chivers, but the degree of sensuality, in the new documentary, "Bi the Way." Researchers have spent more than 10 years trying to pinpoint arousal differences between straight, gay, and bisexual individuals. Whereas gay men tend to be aroused by same-sex imagery, women are aroused by both.
A husband and a girlfriend? An unconventional arrangement that works. "I want you to kiss me," she said. Funny she should use those words when they so closely echoed mine more than ten years ago. "I want to kiss you," I had said to my then best friend Sophie Anne. "Me too," Sophie Anne had said to me then. "Are you sure?" was what I said to Jemma, the girl who was now requesting that I do something that I imagined could change a lot of things for a lot of people. Of course, I never could have known then just how much change it would mean.
Dr. Lisa Diamond of the University of Utah just completed a 10-year study of bisexual women. Her conclusion is that bisexual women are generally not lesbians in hiding. For the most part, the defined themselves as bisexual throughout the 10 years, rather than changing orientation. Good to know.
Bisexuality is more than a passing phase says a recent study by the American Psychological Association. In fact, going both ways appears to be a distinct sexual orientation. The study, conducted by Utah psychologist Lisa M. Diamond, PhD, followed 79 non-heterosexual women for over a decade (i.e. long enough to account for any college-age swings of the pendulum), and found that the bisexual women maintained a stable pattern of attraction to both sexes.
For the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: same-sex hook-ups. Question: I just got engaged to my boyfriend of two years, and I feel regretful that I never had a sexual experience with a woman—even though I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Is it too late for me to explore this fantasy? –Vanessa, 29