BAD BEHAVIOR

Patience is virtue, but sometimes your partner says and does some things that make you want to rip out your hair. Here's 9 tips that can help you cope when you can't handle your partner anymore.

"Is it normal that my husand ... ?" Have you ever asked yourself this question and wondered whether or not that thing your partner just said or did was okay? Many of us second-guess ourselves. We worry that we're making a big deal out of nothing. We don't want to start a fight or make things tense, but certain behaviors feel hurtful or seem like huge red flags.

Adults love to give kids warnings when a rule is broken and would love to believe warnings are a highly compassionate method of parenting, a reflection of our loving and kind humanity. But guess what? Warnings may be the farthest thing from true compassion. Though almost always well-intentioned, warnings will routinely backfire. Here are the main reasons why:

When I was a child, it seemed like every adult in my zip code had an uncanny skill for making a “mountain out of a molehill.” In other words, of taking the smallest shred of negativity and amplifying all the tyranny and rottenness that shred of negativity may have implied. Before I go any further, let me give credit where credit is due. Exaggeration—the ability to weave a grand story out of next to nothing—is a very creative endeavor. It takes a keen eye, creative determination, and a lofty ability to wax poetic on all that is wrong.

Failed time-outs can be a huge source of frustration for parents and teachers, making them question their skills and abilities, and leading to the belief that they need to escalate severity to get consequences to work. This can easily result in stronger and stronger reprimands, lectures, and even yelling, along with more and more drastic and punitive consequences. This is typically a recipe for disaster. There is a much better way. Really understanding why time-outs don’t work is the place to begin.

By GalTime Correspondent, Lindsley Lowell, for GalTime.com what i learned (and cringed at) while traveling with my husband on business   What happens in China stays in China?

So many kind and thoughtful parents are trying so hard to simply have a lovingly positive impact on their child, only to see the child slip further and further into the realm of being “challenging.” This is so prevalent, even among the best and brightest parents. Difficult child behavior comprises a quiet epidemic – the kind that brings so many to their knees.

Dear Dr. Romance: How do I make him understand? So my soon-to-be-ex is still in the house as well as myself! This is not working!  He keeps trying to make things better, but I don't feel anything for him anymore.  He has been better to me but is still very rude to our son and says hurtful things to him! He also says rude things about teammates on my sons ball team and doesn't think he is being rude and doesn't care if other people hear what he says! I can no longer deal with this!

There is a quiet despair among so many loving, smart, and deeply caring parents. They so desire to see their children manifest their greatness, to use their intensity well instead of having it go awry, and too often they see their best efforts to inspire respectful and responsible choices slip away to further levels of frustration.

Lately .... I've been watching television in shock at the behavior of 40+ woman. It started with singer Keyshia Cole’s: The Way it Is show. She introduced us to her mom Frankie, during a visit they had in prison. In that interview Frankie was very convincing that she was clean and trying to change her life to be apart of her kids and grandchildren’s life. After being released she did the opposite, once home she started to party and run around Atlanta humiliating her children by acting there age and dating men their age.

A lab tech at Georgia Health Sciences University may have engaged in too much monkey business.

Clair prides herself on being really good when she diets ... until she isn't. Then she is really, really bad and can't seem to help herself. The moment she gets derailed and succumbs to food she knows she shouldn't have, she is taken over by an insatiable desire for all the foods she's been denied the past few weeks. The pattern is always the same, as it is for millions of people who diet every month.

Biologically, we are all driven to find and bed a mate. From the occasional fling, to locking it down through the legal system, everyone shares that same desire of human connection. So with all of that need coursing through our veins, why are YOU sitting at home in your studio apartment streaming Netflix on your laptop, gaming on your Xbox, or mercilously weeping into ugly couch pillows over the sufferage of a non existent dating life? Why does everyone else seem to be so blissfully in love while you remain the pitied Single of your immediate circle of friends?

Does your child's behavior, the choices he or she makes, and fears about how he will turn out weigh you down, making you feel like it's all somehow a reflection on you? When our kids don't act in ways we think they should, it's natural to feel anxious and responsible; we're only human. But, when we do this, we stop seeing the boundary between where we end and where our child begins. We become fused with them.

When Chris Brown smashed Rihanna's face up and bit her, there should have been no question about what a child learned from their parent. If you didn't reveal your opinion about her return, your silence is sending a message of acceptance. You have to come down heavy on violence against women being wrong and back it up with supporting actions — like telling your kids no buying Brown's music.

I hear about it week after week, month after month. From men and women. No, it is not affairs. Here's what it is: "When we are home together, life is great. But when we are with friends, family, workmates, bosses (take your pick—all are mentioned by various clients of all ages), he/she does things that make me want to hide under a table, or better yet, run." The examples are endless...