While the Beckhams welcomed their first daughter, Harper Seven, over the weekend, Kate Hudson is still mulling over what to name her new baby boy with her musician fiancé, Matthew Bellamy. From Natalie Portman’s first to Mariah Carey's twins, see more celebrities who added to their families this summer.
The Octomom, AKA Nadya Suleman, story has created quite the ethical debate since she gave birth to octuplets two years ago, and a medical board has decided her fertility doctor, Michael Kamrava, is going to have to take the fall for the fallout.
Not surprisingly, sleepless nights, diaper duty and the drain on finances takes a toll on young couples whose greatest stressor, up until that point, was what movie to rent on a Saturday night. In fact, the Relationship Research Institute in Seattle reports that two-thirds of couples experience a decline in their relationship after the birth of their first child. Women start feeling dissatisfied right away, while men experience these feelings gradually.
If we would have been personally asked to cast a prediction for this study, about whether moms of twins or singleton babies live longer, we would have totally went with mothers of one. Come on. We've been hearing parents tell their clans of kiddos, "Y'all are gonna be the death of me" for ages, haven't you? Chasing after two toddlers at once (and worrying about them) must take a few years off a mom's life, right? Apparently not. New research shows moms of twins actually live longer than moms who just have one baby at a time. Women who birth two children at once are generally stronger from the start, so they tend to live longer.
Letting my son cry it out has not been the main issue in our house. Instead, convincing his father that sleep training works has been an epic battle. Sleep training impacted our marriage, and my job, in ways that no sleep training guide prepared me for. Some light needs to be shed on the conversations that happen in the parents' bedroom while the baby cries.
Two Shall Become One. . . and then three. What happens to the couple relationship when a baby is introduced into the mix? Well, for one thing, life gets very exciting! And exhausting. And challenging. Amid the chaos and the joy and the fear, it is possible to continue to develop a strong, healthy couple relationship. Here are some tips to help:
Everyone tells you how important it is to stay connected to your spouse once you have a child. What they don't tell you is how hard that is to do, since all you really want do on a night off is sleep. A recent haphazard date night my husband and I had highlights this conundrum well.
A few weeks ago, my boyfriend and I discussed the issue that could eventually end our relationship. One of us wants a baby someday, and the other isn't so sure. My boyfriend knows he wants to be a dad. He's in his early thirties in New York City, which is like being 24 in any part of the country. Luckily, he's got decades of fertility ahead of him. The clock's not ticking yet. But it will. My clock's digital. Or maybe I can't tell time. All I know is that I don't know if I want kids. I'm great with them. I've wondered what it would be like to have a child with a few men I've dated. Yet I feel that many people have children out of a sense of obligation or for selfish reasons. I wouldn't consider it settling to be the cool aunt, instead of a mom.
It was like the post-WWII baby boom at my publishing company in Manhattan. The ladies' room was full of women patting their stomachs, complaining about morning sickness that lasted all day and chugging Cheerios to battle nausea. I had never seen anything like it at any place I've ever worked.
When Amy Tucker of Columbia, Ill., gave birth to a healthy baby boy last May, she made headlines. The 32-year-old cancer survivor was no ordinary new mom. Thirteen years ago, when Tucker was diagnosed with Hodgkin's lymphoma, she knew the cancer treatment would leave her infertile, so she elected to have one of her ovaries frozen for later re-implantation when she was cancer-free and ready to have kids. Freezing ovaries is allowing women to prolong their fertility after 40.
My husband and I generally agree on things. Whether this is due to similar outlooks or the fact that he does his best not to butt heads with me I’m not sure, but whatever the reason, the result is a home and family that’s overall pretty harmonious. In fact, until recently, pretty much the only thing we regularly disagreed about was whether pizza should actually qualify as a food group. (It shouldn’t.) I was surprised to find out this past June that I was pregnant a third time and our headcount would be increasing again. I was even more surprised to learn a couple of months later that we were having a girl. I had the perfect name. So did my husband. They were not the same name. And neither of us is budging.
A recent study out of Israel suggests a man's oxytocin levels may actually be on par with their wives/girlfriends during the child rearing process. Researchers drew blood from 80 couples who were raising a six-week old baby and found identical amounts in their blood stream. As the child matured to six months, the scientists once again analyzed the levels and found the same result. It seems that a mother and father's oxytocin levels rise together while they watch their wee one grow.