Effective Communication: Skills Every Couple Should Know
Communicating effectively will make for a long-lasting relationship.
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6 Steps To Healthier Communication In Your Relationship

The number one problem in relationships just happens to be the most important skill: healthy communication. They couples who make it through life's challenges do it by respecting one another. Learning to talk effectively with your partner in the worst of circumstances will ensure you both are in it for the long haul.

Are You Dreading the Holidays This Year?
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Are You Dreading the Holidays This Year?

Does the mere thought of the holiday season exhaust you and make you want to cry?  The fake smiles you’ll have to plaster on… the shopping you have zero desire to do… the family togetherness you’d give anything to avoid?  Seeing everyone so impossibly happy and full of cheer?

The Power of Anger in Your Relationship
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The Power of Anger in Your Relationship

  Is anger dangerous?  Is it a “bad” emotion?  Anger is at the center of many problems in relationships.  Anger itself is really not the source of the problem.  Anger is a normal, healthy, necessary emotion that protects us from being hurt by others.  It’s how we express it- or, just as importantly, fail to express it- that causes  problems with the people in our lives.  Problems in relationships at home, at work, with our children  our loved ones, friends or even strangers can arise from an ineffective expression

How To Stop Sweeping Things Under The Rug
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How To Stop Sweeping Things Under The Rug

May 3 is National Lumpy Rug Day which is basically means it' time to do some spring cleaning and get rid of a lot of your junk. Literally, the lumps in the rug usually come from the furniture that has been sitting around in the same place for ages but in close relationships, those lumps come from sweeping things under the rug.

Fight or Flight? 2 Ways To Handle Relationship Conflicts
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Fight or Flight? 2 Ways To Handle Relationship Conflicts

The fight or flight response is a natural response to danger. Our bodies are created to fight or flee when danger is upon us, such as being attacked by a mountain lion. When faced with this kind of danger, the stress hormones pour into our body, causing some blood to leave our brains and organs and go into our arms and legs. This is vital to us if we are actually being attacked by a mountain lion or a mugger. The problem is that this same response occurs when we become afraid in other situations, such as conflict with a partner.

Always Ask for What You Need!
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Always Ask for What You Need!

I had a love-hate relationship with my old boss. The love part was my incredible respect for this former Olympic gold medalist turned CEO of one of the leading professional development companies in the world. He was one of those people who could make an audience laugh, cry, and get inspired—all at the same time. People always came up to me after one of Terry’s amazing speeches to say how lucky I was to work for this man. I’d smile and say, “I sure am”, knowing I was lying through my teeth.

Take The Initiative
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Take The Initiative

…In the event of a loss of cabin pressure, an oxygen mask will drop from above. Tighten the mask by pulling on the straps like this. If you are traveling with a child, place your mask on first before assisting them... Whenever I hear that part of the flight attendant’s pre-flight spiel, I always smile. I smile because my gut instinct would be to place the mask on a child first—had I not repetitively heard that directive. But I get the idea—save yourself so you can save others!

Surviving The Holidays: Four Ways to Deal With Ex Wife Run-Ins
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Surviving The Holidays: Four Ways to Deal With Ex Wife Run-Ins

It could happen anywhere: shopping at the mall, a quick visit to the bank, or even a holiday event at your child’s school. One minute, you’re having a great time. The next, your emotions range from shock to bewilderment and you begin to panic.   Yes, it’s one of the most frequently overlooked aspects of divorce – unexpectedly running into your ex-wife, especially during the holidays. No one tells you about these little nuances of divorce or how to deal with this situation – only the after math.

'Hope Springs': A Revolutionary Film About Marriage [EXPERT]
Kay (Meryl Streep) was ready to change her marriage. Are you ready to change yours?
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'Hope Springs': A Revolutionary Film About Marriage

This past weekend, I was fortunate enough to catch the newly-released movie Hope Springs, written by Vanessa Taylor, producer and scriptwriter of the television series Game of Thrones. Coming out of the movie, I tried to sort out the many messages and lessons that sprung forth (pun intended).

How Compatible Are You and Your Partner?
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How Compatible Are You and Your Partner?

Do you argue over money? Will Money Ruin Your Relationship? [EXPERT] Are you fighting over sex? Do you have different ideas about how much time you should spend together and apart? Do you squabble over extended family and friends? Is one of you daring and reckless, while the other wants to play things safe? Does one of you want to be right all the time? Does one of you want to always be in control? Do you disagree about the fun activities in your life?

Is The Honeymoon Over?
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Is The Honeymoon Over?

One question that comes up often in my practice as a couples therapist is the issue of "falling out of love." You’ve been in love with someone for 6-12 months, maybe longer, and you start to wonder whether this is going to last. Are you going to stay together, settle down, or is it time to move on? If the latter is on your mind, what happened? Sister Souls

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What do you do more of: Freeze, Fight or Flee?
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How Do You Handle Conflict?

None of the three Conflict Personality Types are bad or wrong. However, they all presuppose that conflict warrants a red-alert warning to the system, as would be the case if a tiger with yard-long claws was running you down. Often, conflict, although admittedly uncomfortable, is a huge opportunity for some part of the relationship dynamic to be shaken loose and upgraded. We often miss or overlook the opportunity entirely, so busy are we trying to maintain our safety from the perceived threat by Freezing, Fighting or Fleeing.