Who are the 'mentors' in your life? Decide who and what you will let in.
From the day you are born you are like a sponge, absorbing the thoughts and opinions of others. You might say that every person with whom you come in contact is a mentor, influencing how you see yourself and the world. What are you taking in - negativity or inspiration, garbage or gold? And what do you put back out? How does this affect your self-esteem? Decide who and what you will let in.
In Part 1 of the series we talked about how your communication style may sound like a Mother. Now it’s time to take a look at the Lovers communication style.
The Lover Attitude And Communication Style
If you've done your homework on you, 50 is just the beginning of creating awesome love.
Okay, first things first. I am an honest man so I have to admit as I write this I am 49, but in just a few short months, in May, I will be 50. Some may break out in a cold sweat at the thought that life is half over. Some may deny their age. And some may just resign to life and let it push them the rest of the way to the grave.
Bypass confrontations with kids when you react and respond more positively.
“You’ve got to accentuate the positive.” (Song by Harold Arlen & Johnny Mercer, 1944)
A positive attitude (or even a less negative attitude) has the potential to change lives. This old song lyric came to mind while reading The Roller-Coaster Years – Raising Your Child Through the Maddening Yet Magical Middle School Years (Gianetti & Sagarese). This is a fascinating book for parents of 10-15-year-olds, and for parents who want a gl
We can control our self-doubt and move towards self-confidence using 5 great tips.
Have you ever heard a 3-year old demand, “I do it!!”? Unfortunately, the fearlessness we know as children often leaves many of us as adults. I have been plagued by self-doubt for much of my adult life, so I’ve taken a special interest in beating it. Below I have outlined 5 tips for gaining confidence and shedding self-doubt.
The more you talk, the less they hear. Say it in a word.
You know when you're lecturing. You can see it on your child's face. Or in the eye-rolling. Or in the sigh. They know what's coming after the first few sentences, proabably after the first few words. But you keep going because now they're being disrespectful and you're going to make your point if it's the last thing you do! You've been there. I've been there. Maybe you got that look or sigh from your partner, too.
Let the Festival of Lights be your guide toward lasting love.
Often referred to as the Festival of Lights, Chanukah celebrates the miracle of lamp oil lasting eight days when it was only enough for one. But how does this apply to your love life?
Don't treat a teen like an 8-year old. Let go! It's your job to send them out into the world.
It’s a fact. As your kids grow up, you must grow up, too!
If you are the parent of teens, you can’t treat them the way you did when they were eight. As they grow, you have to grow. What worked with a child won’t be effective anymore. The sooner you accept that, the easier adolescence will be on all of you.
The more you say, the less teens hear. Learn the number one strategy for getting your point across.
You know when you're lecturing. You can see it on your child's face. Or in the eye-rolling. Or in the sigh. But you keep going because now they're being disrespectful and you're going to make your point if it's the last thing you do! He knew what was coming in the first minute, well actually in the first sentence, and he's not interested in hearing any more.
Do you handle challenges with dignity OR do you kick and scream and expect the worst?
No matter where you are in your life, you have an opportunity to make it better.
If you’ve just gone through divorce, even if it wasn’t your choice, you can thrive. If you’ve just lost a loved one, you can thrive. If you’ve had a serious illness or still do, you can thrive.
You can make the decision between just hanging on by your fingertips OR being resilient and surpassing the difficulties of wherever you are.
Change your Attitude and you will change your life - GUARANTEED!
Isabelle: I wonder what my purpose is...
Hugo Cabret: Everything has a purpose, clocks tell you the time, trains takes you to places. I'd imagine the whole world was one big machine. Machines never come with any extra parts, you know. They always come with the exact amount they need. So I figured if the entire world was one big machine... I couldn't be an extra part. I had to be here for some reason. And that means you have to be here for some reason, too…