If you want to get the green light instead of "Not tonight", there are a few things you should know.
Listen up, Romeo. With the amount of stuff we have on our plates everyday, it's going to take a lot more than begging to get us in the mood. There is nothing easy about having to balance work and taking care of the kids — all while trying to fit in time for a breather. We're not purposely trying to shut you out; it's just that multi-tasking and going through our mental checklists of what needs to be done can be incredibly draining at times, making our pillows feel like the sexiest thing since sliced bread.
Doug Olds from After Nine Tonight gets why we feel that nothing would be better than having a husband who understands just how tired and stressed we are. Sex isn't an obligation. It doesn't matter how long you've been together; you have to work on the build up to get the pay off. That's why Doug suggests making it your number one priority to make your wife feel safe, sane and secure. Intimacy is all about showing your partner that you are behind them one hundred percent.