Fighting with your partner on vacation is all too common. This article discusses how to avoid it.
This article discusses a few steps you need to take in order to make the most of those special, high pressure days on the calendar, when you and your partner are supposed to blissfully get along, whether they are holidays or vacation days.
A common complaint of many couples who come into my office is that they constantly fight on vacation or holidays.
Is this a problem for you too?
Why? Shouldn’t it be easier to get along without the pressure of work and the rest of life’s stresses?
Are you guilty of this Mother knows best kind of communication? You may be surprised!
Have you heard this story?
An elderly man was stopped by the police around 2 a.m. and was asked where he was going at that time of night.
The man replied, "I'm on my way to a lecture about alcohol abuse and the effects it has on the human body, as well as smoking and staying out late."
The officer then asked, "Really? Who's giving that lecture at this time of night?"
The man replied, "That would be my wife."
Ever reflect on an argument and ask yourself, “What on earth was I thinking when I said that?!”
Ever reflect on an argument and ask yourself, “What on earth was I thinking when I said that?!” Well, the field of social neuroscience is providing answers to help us understand our outbursts. Our brains have two almond-shaped masses called amygdalae that are in charge of processing our emotional reactions. The amygdalae regulate our fight or flight response, which was created as a survival mechanism to allow us to react quickly to stimuli before giving our rational brain time to interpret the stimuli. In critical situations, our amygdalae respond
Mistake number one: you're afraid to bring up issues.
What kills trust in intimate relationships and steps you can take to restore trust!
How many times have you heard the words, "If you love me you will trust me" or "Why don't you just trust me?"
I don't know how those words feel in your gut but they always fill me with even more distrust than I was originally feeling.
Of course any admonitions that you "should" feel trust are designed to circumvent your internal warning system. Whether that is accomplished with assurances or threats or attempts to shame you doesn't really matter. The end result is the same.
What can you do to make sure you and your honey stay on the wide, smooth path to happiness.
Here are my 5 must-do rules for keeping the fight monster far away:
1.) Remember to take a few moments everyday to focus on your partner. Listen to whatever it is that they want to say. Don’t judge or feel the need to answer them right away. Just listen. And make sure that they know that you are listening. Good eye contact is critical.
Ways To Resolve Conflicts Without Emotional Injury.
"Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others."
As in my home, one of the few things that I can guarantee is that all couples will experience conflict. Since conflict is a normal part of any relationship, learning how to resolve them without emotional injury is crucial.
What if it’s not your man that’s wrong – but it’s your expectations instead?
Everyone knows it’s a woman’s prerogative to change her mind – but that doesn’t mean she should try to change her man. I recently got an email from a client who was quite upset about a Valentines Day gift she had given a man she was dating. To make a long story short, my client went to a great deal of effort to find just the right gift. I was actually really impressed by the thoughtfulness, effort and appropriateness of the message behind her gift.
Here’s where the trouble started....
All it takes is 21 minutes per year for a happier marriage.
Apparently couples spell happiness r-e-v-i-e-w. An interesting study led by Eli Finkel, head of the social psychology department at Northwestern University, shows that couples who review their relationship three times a year enjoy happier marriages.
Here are 4 ways to blow past the negativity of a fight with your spouse.
Arguments and disagreements with the people we love are bound to happen. Your spouse says says or does something that upsets you and you get defensive. Your spouse and you have different opinions on a subject matter and you find yourself trying to argue your point across. Fights happen, it's normal. However, there are many ways we unknowingly gamble with our relationships.
Learn why successful conflict management is the key to matrimonial bliss.
In an article on Time.com, divorced couples offer lessons about what it takes to sustain a solid marriage. Relationships are tough; they require a whole lot more than love to make them succeed.
