A tactical approach to avoiding a complete breakdown in communication.
Ever found yourself circumventing a conversation you know you need to have with your partner? Or maybe you've rehearsed precisely what you want to say only to have it fall on deaf ears, or worse, defensive ears! Every relationship encounters its share of tough issues. An unexpected change in circumstances, or feelings of dissatisfaction, or a desire for change, for example, may trigger an issue. How you view them depends on a number of factors including your stage of life and your ability to effectively manage the issues that arise in your relationship.
Recently it's become trendy for ambitious couples to enroll in "preventative" marriage therapy, attempting to amp up a relationship gone routine or to keep a mildly troubled one from going off the rails towards divorce.
Getting dumped sucks… there's no doubt about it. There aren't many things more heart-wrenching than finding out that the person you love thinks he will be better off without you. But this news can really make your guts fall on the floor when it comes completely out of left field. If an "out-of-the-blue breakup" has happened to you in the past, I don't have to remind you of how much it hurts. But the good news is that I can show you how to make sure it never happens again. You see, the tell-tale signs of an inevitable breakup will always be there if you know what to look for. Keep reading to find out...!
Poll: How Do You Usually Resolve An Argument?: a. Yell, then apologize. b. The silent treatment. c. Therapy. d. Sex. e. Break dishes.
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There may be trouble in eyeliner paradise. Perez Hilton reported on Monday that Ashlee Simpson-Wentz and hubby Pete Wentz got into a huge public fight after Ashlee downed one too many drinks at the one-year anniversary party of Wentz's Chicago Bar, Angels and Kings.
Gretchen Rubin, Huffington Post blogger and author of The Happiness Project (forthcoming), recently compiled a list of 23 phrases that can help couples turn a verbal brawl back down to a constructive fight. Here are YourTango's top picks from that list and why we think they work so well.
Ryan Reynolds and Scarlett Johansson's 10-month marriage has hit a rough patch, Foxnews.com reports, saying that the two had an epic blowout last week that caused Ryan to skip Comic-Con, where he was scheduled to make his first appearance for the upcoming Green Lantern movie.
Children whose parents treat each other violently are more likely to have mental difficulties as adults finds a study from the National Institute of Health and Medical Research in Paris, France, reports Science Daily. When researchers carried out in-person interviews with more than 3,000 adults they measured intimate partner violence, violence against children, lifetime suicide attempts and current level of depression.
Sometimes we get lucky. A new relationship moves along swimmingly, without glitch. It's stress-free, guilt-free and conflict-free to boot. We may even start to gloat about the flat, ever calm quality of the relationship waters. But if six months has passed in your relationship without even the slightest hint of a mild tiff you may have to ask yourself: Are you afraid of the first-fight hurdle?
Poll: How Do You Deal With A Monster-In-Law?: Be blunt. Tell her that her actions are disrespectful and are hurting your relationship with her son. Avoid her. Don’t get into situations where you'll have to talk to her. Give back what you get! If she's fresh with you, you've got to be rude right back. Be nice. Ignore her incivility and just try to get along with her.
You like to shop, and he likes to save. He likes to smoke, and you like to breath. He wants to pee on you in the shower, but you would rather lather alone. Couples inevitably find themselves butting heads from time to time, and some contend that this is healthy as long as fangs remain concealed. Nonetheless, resolving arguments is seldom simple, and so Sidetaker.com offers a novel service that takes the guesswork out of deciding who is right and who is wrong. Settling your argument on Sidetaker.com is a reasonable way to put an issue to rest once and for all: by promoting you and your guy to communicate, and enlisting a jury of strangers to submit their two sense. We know it may sound a little Jerry Springer. But it's cheaper than therapy and sure beats his mom.
Screaming, yelling, breaking furniture, soul-sucking jobs, mental illness, infidelity: Revolutionary Road is not your typical holiday season movie. Don't be fooled by the Kate-Winslet-and-Leonardo-Di-Caprio pairing -- this is not Titantic. Frank and April Wheeler are two bright young things in 1950s New York City who fall in love, get pregnant and move out to suburbia with stars in their eyes. But seven or so years later, the daily commute and absurd office nonsense is doing Frank in. Back home, April feels bored and stifled by domestic life, aching over both of their unmet potential. As she energizes Frank and they start to claw their way out, real life sets in and throws every single roadblock imaginable in their way. There's many Mad Men parallels in the analyses of post-war life, but ultimately, Revolutionary Road is just a portrait of a straining marriage: it's about the capacity that two people who are in love have to be cruel to each other.
A Times Magazine piece this weekend argues that teasing is a natural part of being human and, towards the end of the piece, it touches on teasing as a part of romantic relationships. Studies have found that couples who have lots of nicknames and silly phrases they use together have more fulfilling and happier unions. Partners who can poke fun at each other during a fight end up feeling closer after the conflict than couples who don't tease during arguments.