Frustrated by the same never-ending arguments? Use these techniques to get to the bottom of it!
Do you ever have an argument or discussion with your partner and think, ‘I have no idea what to say right now’ or ‘I’m so mad that I can’t even hear you’? This post is meant to help guide you through a difficult conversation and manage feelings between you and your loved ones. I will use the word “partner” because communication between couples can be particularly difficult, but it could apply to a family member, a colleague, or a friend.
Step 1: Put yourself on hold, temporarily
The Celtics cheerleaders. Image courtesy of SportsIllustrated.com.
Guess what this Boston guy did to his poor girlfriend's jeans in the heat of an argument...
The incident took place when the couple were in the victim's car after watching the Celtics lose Game 6 of their NBA conference final to the Miami Heat. The defendant, John McGuinness, was reportedly enraged after his girlfriend — whose name has not yet been released — received a text message from a male friend.
If fighting with your spouse brings out the wounded teenager in you, Crystal Andrus can help.
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How I used humor to remedy a common couples problem.
One afternoon, I glared at him across the living room, livid that he had committed an intolerable transgression. I don't remember the details, but he probably folded an afghan incorrectly. I wanted to yell with every fiber of my being. But I stopped for a moment to consider. I could hurl insults at him, he'd take it and we'd move on. But would he put up with my temper indefinitely? And should he have to? Was this how I wanted to communicate with my life partner?
According to a recent study, January is the most depressing month of the year.
Don't let January be the reason you break up or get divorced.
According to a recent study, January is the most depressing month of the year. In fact, a study of 1,000 couples in Britain found that in January, couples fight for more than eight minutes a day and have 20 arguments during the month, compared to about 15 fights in the other months.
"We need to talk" scares the dickens out of most men.
Communication tip #1: these four words send shivers down a man's spine.
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It was the middle of the night on January 27, 2001. After another big argument with my spouse, I had finally left. Sitting on a friend’s couch I took my wedding rings off. I was done. I just couldn’t take anymore. A month later, I moved into a rental home with my 4-year-old son.
Levels of conflict stay pretty steady throughout a relationship.
Think you and your betrothed will stop fighting once you tie the knot? Think again. A new study suggests that married couples continue to argue throughout their relationship about as much as they did in the beginning.