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How to Have An Emotionally Supportive Argument

How to Have An Emotionally Supportive Argument

Frustrated by the same never-ending arguments? Use these techniques to get to the bottom of it!

Do you ever have an argument or discussion with your partner and think, ‘I have no idea what to say right now’ or ‘I’m so mad that I can’t even hear you’? This post is meant to help guide you through a difficult conversation and manage feelings between you and your loved ones. I will use the word “partner” because communication between couples can be particularly difficult, but it could apply to a family member, a colleague, or a friend. Step 1: Put yourself on hold, temporarily

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The Celtics cheerleaders. Image courtesy of SportsIllustrated.com.

Weird News: The Celtics Lost, He Took It Out On His Girlfriend

Guess what this Boston guy did to his poor girlfriend's jeans in the heat of an argument...

The incident took place when the couple were in the victim's car after watching the Celtics lose Game 6 of their NBA conference final to the Miami Heat. The defendant, John McGuinness, was reportedly enraged after his girlfriend — whose name has not yet been released — received a text message from a male friend.

How Do I Learn To Argue Like An Adult? [VIDEO]
How Do I Learn To Argue Like An Adult? [VIDEO]

How Do I Learn To Argue Like An Adult?

If fighting with your spouse brings out the wounded teenager in you, Crystal Andrus can help.

Does fighting with your boyfriend or husband bring out the worst in you? When you get upset or angry, do you lash out like a rebellious teenager? Are you worried that you might eventually say or do something you will later regret? Good news: you're not alone. In this video, women's advocate, founder of the SWAT Institute and YourTango Expert Crystal Andrus offers advice about how to keep your inner-teenager in check when fighting with your significant other. Help! I Can't Get Over My Divorce

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Tip: Approach marriage counseling like you would a regular doctor's appointment.

"Marriage Counseling Is Not The Kiss Of Death"

One wife reflects on four big lessons from couples therapy—and how to approach it in the right way.

Most people think of counseling as the kiss of death for relationships, but this couple opted to go for it anyway. And without that mindset. Now they're on the other side, and one wife is ready to share insights from their sessions with the shrink.

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The Sentence That Saved My Marriage

How I used humor to remedy a common couples problem.

One afternoon, I glared at him across the living room, livid that he had committed an intolerable transgression. I don't remember the details, but he probably folded an afghan incorrectly. I wanted to yell with every fiber of my being. But I stopped for a moment to consider. I could hurl insults at him, he'd take it and we'd move on. But would he put up with my temper indefinitely? And should he have to? Was this how I wanted to communicate with my life partner?

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According to a recent study, January is the most depressing month of the year.

Has January Put A Strain On Your Relationship?

Don't let January be the reason you break up or get divorced.

According to a recent study, January is the most depressing month of the year. In fact, a study of 1,000 couples in Britain found that in January, couples fight for more than eight minutes a day and have 20 arguments during the month, compared to about 15 fights in the other months.

The Phrase Men Hate To Hear
"We need to talk" scares the dickens out of most men.

The Phrase Men Hate To Hear

Communication tip #1: these four words send shivers down a man's spine.

It's pretty obvious that men and women communicate differently—that simple fact has been the basis for many a tired sitcom or rom com plot. But the gender divide in communication is an interesting one to explore, especially in terms of relationships.

Divorce - Is It the Best Choice?

Divorce - Is It the Best Choice?

Your inner happiness is of vital importance!

It was the middle of the night on January 27, 2001. After another big argument with my spouse, I had finally left. Sitting on a friend’s couch I took my wedding rings off. I was done. I just couldn’t take anymore. A month later, I moved into a rental home with my 4-year-old son.

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In Favor Of Fighting: Why It's OK To Argue

Put up your dukes! Couples who don't fight face other problems.

Here is an argument for arguing: It shows you trust the other person and your relationship enough to make waves.

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Marriage Study Says If You Fight Now, You'll Fight Later

Levels of conflict stay pretty steady throughout a relationship.

Think you and your betrothed will stop fighting once you tie the knot? Think again. A new study suggests that married couples continue to argue throughout their relationship about as much as they did in the beginning.

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Do You Have The Same Fight Over and Over?

Discover why sometimes it is easy to resolve couples conflicts and other times it seems impossible.

Discover why sometimes it is easy to resolve relationship conflicts and other times it seems impossible.