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After breakup – do you keep the ring – or give it back?

After breakup – do you keep the ring – or give it back?

NFL star, Mario Williams, and ex in ugly legal battle over $785k ring. What’s the right thing to do?

As a relationship coach, it’s definitely not my job to muck-rake or publicly weigh in on celebrity disputes when I don’t even know the people involved. It is my job, however, to look for “teachable moments” and try to provide value to people that will help create more conscious, loving and productive relationships. This is one of those moments. Also bear in mind, this is a relationship forum. I am not qualified, nor interested, in giving legal advice here.

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Mistake number one: being defensive.

5 Ways You Accidentally Start Fights

You may not even realize it at the time.

The first step to resolving a fight is to recognize what pushed those buttons in the first place.

Does Your Brain Contribute to Your Arguments?

Does Your Brain Contribute to Your Arguments?

Ever reflect on an argument and ask yourself, “What on earth was I thinking when I said that?!”

Ever reflect on an argument and ask yourself, “What on earth was I thinking when I said that?!”  Well, the field of social neuroscience is providing answers to help us understand our outbursts.  Our brains have two almond-shaped masses called amygdalae that are in charge of processing our emotional reactions.  The amygdalae regulate our fight or flight response, which was created as a survival mechanism to allow us to react quickly to stimuli before giving our rational brain time to interpret the stimuli.  In critical situations, our amygdalae respond

How to Resolve an Argument With Your Mate Every Time

How to Resolve an Argument With Your Mate Every Time

Ways To Resolve Conflicts Without Emotional Injury.

"Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others." As in my home, one of the few things that I can guarantee is that all couples will experience conflict. Since conflict is a normal part of any relationship, learning how to resolve them without emotional injury is crucial.

He Is Trying To Control Me: Resistance Is NOT Futile

He Is Trying To Control Me: Resistance Is NOT Futile

Can she make her husband do something for his own good -- without destroying the marriage?

What choices do you have if your husband is doing something that’s bad for him, bad for you, breaking agreements that you have made, refusing to acknowledge that there’s anything wrong, and blaming you, telling you that you’re crazy for calling the problem to his attention?   Marilyn couldn’t decide whether to take the kids and leave him, act like a flaming bitch to get his attention, just go ahead and live her own life and ignore his behavior or just go along with his new obsessions.

4 Tips Hurricane Sandy Teaches Us About Relationships
How do you handle stress in your relationship?

4 Tips Hurricane Sandy Teaches Us About Relationships

Stress damages relationships. Learn how to stress-proof your relationship and avoid its effects.

When we're in the midst of a crisis, the chaos and confusion drive out all thoughts of the impact on the relationship itself. You're too busy just trying to meet physical needs and to survive another day — emotional issues take a back seat. When the danger has passed, however, and you begin to pull your life back together, you take a deep breath and start to catch up to your feelings. It's during this time when relationships are the most vulnerable.

woman nagging man
You call this nagging?

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Surviving Your First Couples Confrontation

Surviving Your First Couples Confrontation

You're soooo in love, you could never fight. Right? Wrong! How to handle that first lover's quarrel.

You met. You swept each other off your respective feet. And since then, the going’s been great. And then, all of a sudden… cur-chunk! You hit a speed-bump. There had been warning signs, but you either missed them or chose to ignore them. But you couldn’t avoid it — your first confrontation as a couple.  

4 Unmet Needs That Lead To Conflict (EXPERT)

4 Unmet Needs That Lead To Conflict (EXPERT)

Relationships evolve and old patterns of behavior emerge.Conflicts can be solved in new ways.

  When two people are just starting a relationship, they do their best to present only their best and most attractive attributes to the other party. They want to show their most favorable attributes to each other and work hard to meet the needs of the partner. They want to appear strong, confident and willing to compromise. Next Level of Love

resentment
Resentment is normal. You just have to learn to work it out and work through it.

Do You Secretly Resent Your Spouse?

One writer reflects on the object of resentment in her marriage—which saved her husband's life.

My husband joined a gym. He lost ten pounds. In a matter of months, he started to look like Popeye. And to my embarrassment, I resented that.