Love is:

a) blind b) a battlefield c) all you need d) all of the above

How did you meet your wife, Ivy?

Sex Ed class in ninth grade. I flirted with her throughout high school [in Amherst, Mass.], but we never dated. Then, my best friend from school, with whom I'm still in touch, played matchmaker [more than a decade later].

What’s the best part about marrying someone you knew in high school?

A lot of odd coincidences. Our brothers were in the same class in high school, too. Our fathers were both antiques dealers. Our parents' sides … Read More

You know that couple—the one that checks each other’s email, answers each other’s cell phones, and formulates opinions as a pair ("We're so over Will Ferrell!"). Maybe—horror of horrors!—you've even been in that relationship. Regardless, it's important to find a balance between independence and intimacy. That’s why we asked Jane Adams, Ph.D., author of Boundary Issues: Using Boundary Intelligence to Get the Intimacy You Want and the Independence You Need in Life, Love, and Work, to explain why fences can sometimes make good neighbors.

Why do we create boundaries in romantic relationships? We create them because of this … Read More

Looking for a low-key, cozy way to welcome in the New Year? How about snuggling up to your honey with a warm cup of glögg? Lest you stress about that charming but pesky umlaut, we’ll toss you a hint: Glögg rhymes with chug. Easy, right? Now here’s another tip: Feel free to use an inexpensive wine, since the added spices will take center stage in this winter cocktail.

1 1/2 cups vodka 10 cloves 10 cardamom pods 2 (3-inch) cinnamon sticks 1 (2-inch) piece fresh ginger, peeled Zest of 1 orange 1 (750-ml) bottle inexpensive red wine 1/2 cup … Read More

What do you do to feel sexy?
Honestly, the clothes I get to wear [as Daniel] are pretty outstanding. That doesn’t hurt. Definitely doesn’t hurt. Between what they dress me in on the show and what I’m sent [because of what I am dressed in on the show], I have among some of the finest suits made. Ferragamo made me a tux for the Emmy’s that was just not to be believed. You know, I’m not a person who would spend thousands of dollars on a wardrobe, but it’s kind of even more delicious to wear it without spending the … Read More

Here's everything you ever wanted to know—but thought you were too old to ask.

According to Laura Berman, PhD, author of The Passion Prescription, even sexually savvy adults have questions about penis size (it might matter), sex after marriage (does it stop?), and a man's sexual prime (hint: younger is not always better).

"Sexually speaking, people are on a constant quest to know if they are normal," says Berman. So get out your notebook—anda ruler!—and see how your knowledge stacks up.

Does Size Matter? There's no definitive, er, yardstick that can be used to measure sexual performance—but size does come … Read More

A couple of years ago, I fell hard for a dark-haired Swedish drummer who was in a metal band called Obligatory Torture. (In its native form, Obligatorisk Tortyr, it sounded kind of sexy.) He had a tattoo, nose and tongue piercings, and pronounced "yogurt" like it began with a "j."As a first-generation Indian-American, I had a very different background from the Swede, which made us endlessly exotic to each other. He was deeply interested in my culture—and I was deeply interested in the fact that he was about as far away from being Indian as I could get. But we … Read More

Most people associate celebrity with SUVs, Manolo Blahniks, and Malibu beach homes. But not Alicia Silverstone. The actress, 30, has chosen to parlay her fame into a life of activism. She has aligned herself with organizations such as PETA—which named her the sexiest vegetarian alive—and the Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine, which encourages humane alternatives to animal testing.

Silverstone shares her commitment to the issues she cares about with her husband, Christopher Jarecki, front man for the alt-rock band Little Wolverines. After dating for nine years, the couple tied the knot in 2005. Together, they adopted a … Read More

In Hollywood, image is everything. Celebrities preen and pose for paparazzi, often masking their true selves under the glare of a thousand flash bulbs. But not Jada Pinkett Smith. Sure, she's elegant and articulate. But she also gets angry. And wild. And loud. For starters, the pint-sized actress fronts a metal (yes, metal) band, Wicked Wisdom, which has toured with Ozzfest. And she has been known to do crazy things for love: she once jumped off a building in a show of affection for Will Smith, her husband of nine years.

When she's not rocking out on stage, Pinkett Smith, 35, … Read More

A stunning woman falls out of the pages of a lingerie catalog and into your arms. The velvet voice coming from the radio late at night really is crooning in your ear. But in the limelight, relationships tend to spontaneously combust—which is one reason why the 12-year marriage of three-time Grammy Award winner Harry Connick, Jr., and former Victoria’s Secret model Jill Goodacre is—well, dreamy. Connick, fresh off his Broadway debut in the Tony Award winning revival of The Pajama Game, stars in William Friedkin’s psychological thriller Bug, out in December. In February, he returns to his New Orleans … Read More

From the “biting of a boar” and the “splitting of a bamboo” to advice on being a good spouse (and citizen), there’s a lot to learn from the Kama Sutra. Loosely translated as “love aphorisms,” this classic manual was written in Sanskrit between the first and sixth centuries A.D. by Indian nobleman and scholar Vatsyayana.

Anyone can publish a translation, so editions abound. But as with any tool, you need to select the right one for the job: Read on to see which version of this ancient text will perform best on your bedside table.

Love Ph.D.
The Complete Kama Sutra: The First … Read More