Comment: before my boyfriend and i moved in together we had each had our own place where we lived by ourselves. we're both very social people, but at the same time appreciate our alone time. but once we started to get more and more serious we were always spending out time together. if i was at my house, he was usually there. if he was at his apartment, i was on my way over. it got to the point where we were living together but both paying separate rents. then we moved away and moved in together. at first i was nervous because even though we spent every waking second together at home, we each had our own place where we could retreat to if need be. now, if one of us needs to escape as far as we can go is to the other bedroom. but, i found that for us, living together worked out great. we both work opposite schedules, so we don't have to worry about getting off work at the same time and each needing some wind down time to relax. when he gets off, i give him his space to wind down and he does the same for me. but it's great because for us i think it has brought us closer together. it's a much more intimate relationship when you live when someone because they do start to know EVERYTHING about you. but it does work best when you can each have a little time to yourself. if you're constantly bumping elbows with your boyfriend/new roommate, that's when things start to go south. make sure that you each get your alone time so that when you do get to spend time together at home, it's not just sitting on the couch reading a book.

Comment: while i think that the idea of a virginity pledge is great if you're doing it for the right reasons, i think that teaching abstinence only sex ed was one of the worst things that the bush administration could have done. you're pushing your beliefs on children all over the world and rather than teaching them how to have safe sex, you're just telling them not to have sex because premarital sex is bad. premarital sex is so different than it was 20 or even 10 years ago. since more people are having sex now you should be informing them of all the risks that can come along with unprotected sex. if you believe that you should remain a virgin until you are committed by marriage, i think that's great. if you want your child to remain a virgin until they are married, that's your choice too. but either way, everyone should be informed about being safe. if you don't know how to be safe, you're at the biggest risk ever. www.provocativeremarks.com

Comment: i think it's great that you waited. sometimes i wish i would have done the same. a relationship is so different before and after you have sex. i'd like to think that i am in one of the few relationships where you have sex too soon but it ends up working out in the end. my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years now and you could say that we rushed into it. i think we would have connected more on an emotional level had we waited, but since we didn't we never had to go through the awkward first time with each other. www.provocativeremarks.com

Comment: foreplay is so much about building up that connection that you have during sex. we all know sex without foreplay can be pretty boring, but it's also empty meaningless sex, which sometimes is just what you're looking for. www.provocativeremarks.com

Comment: So true! I love kissing! When you're kissing someone you're almost always expecting something more, so when it stops you do get kinda bummed out because it's over and you've got nothin.

Comment: these are all great gifts - except maybe the love sock, not so sure i'm really into that. but i think it's important to have talked about gifts like these before you give them. not everyone is into toys and if you've never talked about it, i wouldn't advise getting someone one for v-day. if you aren't expecting something like this it might come as a shock. so i say talk about toys before you go out and buy one for your valentine.

Comment: no doubt about it kissing is so much fun! but there is an art to kissing. i think most of it has to do with who you are kissing. whenever you kiss someone new for the first time, you never know what to expect, but once the two of you have gotten into a rhythm every time the two of you kiss it will be perfect! and kissing is totally a necessity in a relationship. if a guy wants to be serious with me but still refuses to kiss me ... not cool. chances are he probably isn't into that relationship and i'm not either.

Comment: if you've got your own personal account, it shouldn't be any of his business what you spend your money on unless you can't foot your bills

Comment: i have always wished i could see myself a way that a man sees me. one day. sigh. www.provocativeremarks.com

Comment: I think that women who date alcoholics are doing it so that they can save them. These are women who are emotionally unstable and get into bad relationships because they think that they can be the ones who will make the man better. But while they spend all of their time trying to make the men better, they let them treat them like crap because one day it will all change. It's all about the maybe factor. I have had friends in unstable relationships and you can't get them out of them. They've got to see for themselves that the relationship is bad and want to get out of it. If you tell them, they'll simply tell you that you're wrong. www.provocativeremarks.com