Comment: i am glad so many people are interested in the dramatic arts.. a play is a good first date. i personally want to go on a firs date that could involve lots of talking. art galleries are great, or museums. go buy a vinyl and bring it back to listen to with them! (right so this will never happen) BUT my best dates (and 1st) have involved the great outdoors: trekking a trail, swimming at the river, canoeing.

Comment: visa gift card = you had no idea what to buy a person. general guy gifts: shaving stuff (ravor, lather, aftershave), cologne, socks!!!, that summer action movie everyone talks about but i never saw, sports tickets, a date that includes: a burger and beer stuff i want: vinyls, concert tickets, instruments, videogames, white chocolate

Comment: i agree with newdoc. speaking as a twentysomething, times have already changed in my mind, granted the southern town in texas i was raised in thinks quite differently. first off "success". i want to be an artist... i dated a girl who wanted to be a lawyer, i'm not sure how i could possibly measure these two things, so why try!! at the end of the day we were neither an actor & lawyer, but two people, who really enjoyed kissing... i may never have large scale monetary success, but the person i end up with better not be completely focused on that either! doing what you love is healthy and good but trying to buy the world is something i am not interested in... balance is the key as Bernadette pointed out. i think you can balance your relationship by brining what you are able to bring: whether this be money, compassion, art, dinner, funny jokes... Intelligence helps greatly i feel. two well read people from different socioeconomic statuses can make peace through reasonable thought.. knowlege is freedom

Comment: the issue at hand: "sometimes felt that the only thing missing from their relationship was sex" i went on a few dates with a girl who was very attractive and had her core gay-groupies and i would feel left out or like she really just wanted to be with one of them, but could not. :-P i also had a platonic friend for a year, and everyone thought we were doing it on the side (not the case), its a lot easier to forge new bonds with people flying solo.... its hard to meet new people while also being introduced to new people, whom their is so much history with

Comment: silent rave sounds fascinating. being uninhibited is very very hard to be begin with, mix in the opposite sex, or a person you are attracted to.. :-| not easy! in the past my long term realtionships turned into good frienships, but quickly soured into my immature actions.. but since then i've had lots of platonic friends who are girls and i desire a deeper connection in a realtionship. "A boyfriend is a boyfriend and your girls are the ones you act crazy with." let's flip this sentance "A girlfriend is a girlfriend and your boys are th ones you act crazy with." I am neither of these things. But you not alone i am sure! I know males do some very odd things when they are "hangin' with the bros" closer to myself: "a lover is a lover, my friends are the ones i act crazy with" i was in this dance class "improvised movement" and the entire semester was devoted to breaking down societal norms about dance/movement, and that class was an amazing breath of fresh air to be in!! each morning i could frolic around the studio, or pretend to be a clock, or whatever is weird, but it took a lot of work, myself & the class, to get the point of true freedom.

Comment: "Creativity and communication" are amazing things. i had a similar experience after a wedding (open bar) with a group of good friends and small hotel room, but your experience has structure and is a "game", which always makes things seem different...

Comment: "it's hard to imagine guys not seeing what we see", but that is how it is. every person uses mirrors to worry about their own imperfections, to fret about those details that i (as a typical male) would not see (or if i do, not worry about). we all need to "be easy when you are naked and embrace your flaws". it's the small imperfections in life that make it beautiful. some flaws are good to see and remember, like when you discover cut marks. i have a tactile memory, so i remember a lot about touch & heat.