Comment: The same thought process would deny a woman access to ANY sort of personal growth, such as college, or friends. Things that would enhance HER life as an individual. How can a man truly say he wants her to grow as a person yet deny her access to aspects of that same growth? No your train of thought is more deeply rooted in Possessiveness rather than true love. She's MINE, that's MINE. You can't touch. Further, she has FAR more value than "use as a female". She's not an object. You also seem to attach value as a person to some sort of virginity test, as in "pristine" quality. It's the quality of the individual person, not their "use" value. If a man Whored around does that make HIM less than pristine in your mind? You've confused the value of a person with something far less admirable.

Comment: Us guys are visual that's why porn(type up to the individual) is stimulating to us. My wife is my BFF and the subject of the majority of my fantasies. So put them all together, minus the jealousy and possessiveness some just can't get over(lack of self confidence), and it's a win-win all around to watch or share her sexually. I've encouraged her to explore any aspect she finds interesting or is up for, long as we're both straight up honest. No secrets...and ladies, psst..a man secret...It's also the most closely guarded fantasy/ secret wish of ALL married men; envisioning their wives getting seduced; the sights, the sounds, all the details...whether you can get them to admit it or not. Society has conditioned them to believe they *should* be jealous, just as it has conditioned women to *believe* non monogamy is wrong. Whatever fuels your relationship is fine.

Comment: I disagree. Dating is one thing, marriage is another. If my wife felt she had to keep a secret from me whether to "protect" my feelings or b/c she thought I would react negatively then I've failed to instill the confidence in her I would have hoped she had in us. It leads to a slippery slope in which I'd lose confidence in entrusting information to her. From there it snowballs. I'm not fragile. I don't ask for too much, nor am I judgmental when she expresses an opinion, but total open and honest communication is the one sticking point I insist on. B'sides..us guys LOVE details! psst..a secret...that kind of intimacy makes us horny! ;-)

Comment: Her "accidentally" Flashing strangers or friends is pretty darn hot, actual "sex on the street" isn't so much.

Comment: Does anyone else find it ironic that Ryan Oneal's first big movie was called "Love story". It's about a young man that falls in love with a girl dying of cancer, then actually lives it out in real life?

Comment: Ownership issues seems to be the difference between younger and older. Time and maturity tends to give one a different perspective about the guidelines that border relationships beyond jealousy. In all honesty "She" becomes more important and the things that make her happy rather than "I/Me/Mine". Once beyond the ownership and jealousy traditions of monogamy, you find that it's really ok to share. It doesn't diminish her in your eyes, you in hers, and women are that much more able at multitasking than men. In fact it makes her that much more vivacious knowing she can command the attentions of men other than the one vowed to "love, honor and cherish. If you can't get beyond immaturity and jealousy, you're right, an open marriage is not for you.