Paris Hilton has issued an apology for her outspoken comments about her opinion that most gay men "probably have AIDS." But, we're not sure it can be forgiven that easy.
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With Groundhog Day here, my mind has turned to the elusive do-over. The 1993 Bill Murray flick named for February 2nd has to be one of my all-time favorite, watch-it-every-time-it's-on movies. For those who haven't seen it (and really, what kind of carpet are you living under? Netflix it immediately), the movie's plot centers around a crotchety guy named Phil Conners, played by Murray. Phil is forced to endure the same day over and over until he gets it "right."
Over the years, Johnny Depp has become one of America's most beloved celebrities, despite the actor's tendencies to lean towards more whimsical projects. The Alice in Wonderland star grossed $100 million last year and essentially has his pick of any Tim Burton movie ever created. But, in a recent interview with Vanity Fair, the actor, for once, made a faux pas.
Perhaps we've all had an intimate partner who has said or done things to us that seem simply unforgivable. Can you remember a circumstance where you spoke hurtful or hateful words, and later recognized that you did not really mean them? The context of your life affected the content of what you said. Maybe you were tired, afraid, angry, stressed, or feeling hurt. In that moment you just had to defend yourself, get some space, work through anxiety, or vent some frustration.
“The cruelest lies are often told in silence.” — Robert Louis Stevenson There is no bigger paradigm shift that a relationship experiences than in the aftermath of disclosing or discovering an affair. The betrayal cuts deep and shreds not only the trust between the couple, but often the ability to trust one’s own judgment and the agreements that we believed defined our lives.
Back in the 1970s—and I know I’m dating myself—a Yale law professor named Erich Segal penned a bestselling tearjerker called Love Story. His definition of love: “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” Straight out of the Woodstock era and ethos, it sounded good at the time. Freedom! No guilt! Just be yourself! Spread your wings and fly! It hasn’t worn well, though. Today it’s the other side of the coin we’re more likely to see: You don’t owe anyone anything.
An apology needs to validate feelings, show accountability, and give assurance it won't happen again You screwed up. You inadvertently stepped on your sweetheart’s toes. Or you were in a foul mood and behaved accordingly. Or you were a knucklehead and said or did the wrong thing. Now it’s time to make amends. You know from experience that simply saying, “I’m sorry!” doesn’t cut it even if you really are sorry. So, how do you express regret in a way that your sweetie not only gets it, but is willing to forgive you?
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Suzanne Phillips, Psy.D. When one partner "wrongs" another, the ensuing guilt can have a major impact on the relationship. Let's take a look at apologies and why they can be reparative: An Apology — The Expression of Guilt
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It's Kiss & Make Up Day, and nothing kicks that party off like a good old-fashioned apology. It's the crucial get-down of patching things up. It's the spackle to your relationship wall. Whether you've wronged your man, your BFF, your mama or even your grand-mama, here's how you show them you're sorry, as painlessly and effectively as possible.
Kevin Federline and Shar Jackson didn't just drop weight on VH-1's Celebrity Fit Club: Boot Camp, they dropped some baggage, too. Six years after Kevin Federline left Shar Jackson for Britney Spears, he finally apologized for his selfish behavior.
