Most days these days, I can name a few reasons to be angry at my guy, The Spaniard. Truly. We’ve been through seemingly endless challenges — some self-created and others lobbed at us by an invisible, arbitrary all-star pitcher — and there are many times I’ve asked myself why, oh why, did he not handle x differently? (Read: The way I would have wanted him to.)
A breakup is emotionally taxing on everyone, especially the friends who you are calling non-stop to vent about your ex. Research shows that ranting about your anger is not the best way to get rid of it. Life Coach Amelie Chance shows us the common myths about releasing that aggression.
Chuck Lorre produced a TV show called Dharma and Greg. I video taped (remember VCR’s?) the first episode. At the end of the show, I saw a blip on the screen and wondered what kind of subliminal message was just zapped into my brain. Freeze framing the blip, I saw Chuck’s first “Vanity Card.” The opening line hooked me forever: “Thank you for videotaping “Dharma & Greg” and freeze-framing on my vanity card.” You can read all his cards at www.chucklorre.com. Here is one of those cards.
You have heard yourself say it many times, this resolution to do better next time. Each time you fall down, you promise yourself and anyone else who will listen, that this is the last time. You know better now. You will not do it again. But you do. So why is it that so many of us work so hard to be the best and do the best we possibly can, only to fail over and over again?
This essay brings to your attention the two very frequent scenarios of behaviors in relationships. A lot of people go through similar experiences and wish to change the situation. I suggest a different view at the problem, in fact, I shouldn’t call it a problem, rather an adaptive mechanism of your mind. This perspective shows you why your mind believes that it needs to apply the dysfunctional behaviors. The reason is the instinct of codependency which, if failed to terminate at puberty, prevents you from being self-sufficient.
Forced sex, whether by a spouse or intimate partner with whom you also have consensual sex, is an act of aggression and violence. Some abusers expect or demand sex after they viciously beat or abuse their victims. Research indicates that 1 out of 7 married women are sexually assaulted by their husbands. Marital rape has been illegal in the United States since 1993.
Bringing your pre-relationship Anger ‘luggage' into your marriage can sometimes be a positive thing, believe it or not. Have you noticed, everyone is becoming edgier, crankier? Lately, I have been noticing at an alarming rate of increase, people around me, on the streets, driving, standing on line getting coffee, are short fused. Say ‘good-bye' to common courtesy, being polite, or, being appropriate in public.
Our world is filled with anger and aggression. Newspaper headlines scream about fighting all over the globe, violence in our neighborhoods and abuse in our families. Turn on the TV or go to the movies and you will be flooded with images depicting horrendous crimes, bloodshed, and brutality. We are so comfortable living in a hostile society that we spend millions of dollars purchasing violent video games for our children without realizing that we are contributing to this problem.
Dear Dr. Romance: I am a 49 year old disabed vet, chest injury in pain 24/7. I am on MAJOR pain pills. Have not had sex with wife since one day I pulled her pants down and found a river of a substance that looked like human ejaculate but smelt like beer. Six months later she said it was a female discharge, I have checked with three nurses all have said it had to be ejaculate.
Everyone gets angry from time to time, but to keep your relationships healthy you need to figure out what your anger is telling you, and then communicate it the best way you can. Our personal development coach helps you figure out the steps.
Is anger dangerous? Is it a “bad” emotion? Anger is at the center of many problems in relationships. Anger itself is really not the source of the problem. Anger is a normal, healthy, necessary emotion that protects us from being hurt by others. It’s how we express it- or, just as importantly, fail to express it- that causes problems with the people in our lives. Problems in relationships at home, at work, with our children our loved ones, friends or even strangers can arise from an ineffective expression
When your partner is angry or controlling, what do you do? According to our expert, this is the healthiest thing you can do in a tumultuous relationship.
If you're lucky, you'll never have to know what it's like to be the victim of infidelity. Still, the statistics aren't promising: About 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an affair at some point in their marriages.