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How it Feels: On some level, one of the best ways anyone can relate to what it feels like to catch your spouse cheating is akin to how the world felt on 9/11. I bet you know exactly where you were and what you were doing when you found out. Your life, and time itself, stopped. Living in New York, I can tell you that’s how it felt here on 9/11.
![Why You Should Keep Your Affair To Yourself [EXPERT]](http://images.tangomag.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/node-full/image_blog/120983843-1.jpg "Why You Should Keep Your Affair To Yourself [EXPERT]")
Should you always tell the truth about infidelity to your spouse? Is honesty always the best policy? Many might think the answer is obviously yes, but they'd be mistaken.
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Want to protect your relationship from an affair? Follow these rules to greatly improve your chances. Affair Proofing Rule #1: STAY CLOSE and keep your relationship fun and fresh! One of the reasons people say they have affairs is they start to feel lonely in their marriages. They don’t feel valued, interesting or attractive to their partner. Contrary to popular belief, both men and women have affairs for emotional reasons, not necessarily sexual. Both are seeking to feel attractive, important and listened to.
![Essence Of The Married Man [EXPERT]](http://images.tangomag.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/node-full/image_blog/sed.jpg "Essence Of The Married Man [EXPERT]")
There must be something so irresistible about a married man because so many women fall for them. In just one week, I have encountered two women who have slipped into the trap of fatal attraction for a married man. It is a dangerous territory and I do not recommend that anyone go there. I speak from experience having invested part of my life in a relationship with a married man. I am not writing about this subject to lecture or be judgmental or even to speak from my soapbox about what I know that you don’t. My intention is to expose the underhanded tactics, even if unintentional, of men and the naiveté of women that permit these relationships to flower.
![The Key To Resolving Affairs [EXPERT]](http://images.tangomag.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/node-full/image_blog/affair1.jpg "The Key To Resolving Affairs [EXPERT]")
It can take less than three hours to have an affair. Yet once your affair becomes exposed, you can pretty much count on that sooner or later it will be public knowledge. You will fairly quickly start to feel that the topic will never end. You will find yourself drowning in a sea of endless repetitive questions, countless accusations and threats. Your name will be nominated as the favorite person to gossip abouut in your community. All this reflects the truth that affairs are much easier to get into than it is to resolve them within a marriage.
Recently I received a flurry of hate mail on my blog. Although the author made efforts to cover their tracks by posting their comments as ‘anon.’, I had a sneaky suspicion I knew who the culprit was.
When someone cheats on you it’s like your whole world has crashed down on you. It’s hard to get up and continue on with your life. It’s possible though, you just need to know how to do it. Understanding how to help yourself will get you back on your feet and feeling stronger in no time. Step #1: Allow Yourself to Feel the Pain
Did you know that 99% of men cheat in America — and the other 1% cheat overseas?
We recently shared the news that fewer couples are divorcing due to infidelity, which seems like a great victory for the legions of faithful, til-death-do-us-part men and women of the world. But unfortunately, though it's not causing married couples to beeline it to divorce court, the fact of the matter is this: Cheating still happens.
“He that jokes, confesses.” -Italian Proverb Indiscretion is no longer discreet. Gone are the days of clandestine meetings, sideways glances across an office or illicit gestures in a dark parking lot. Now you can get those same thrills and more in your email box for only a $49 joining fee. It seems too ridiculous to be true, but this is point we’ve reached- a multi-million dollar cash cow of a business that easily enables us to meet our perfect affair partner online.
For couples who want to heal their relationships after an affair there is good reason to be hopeful. Although the results of studies vary, most research reveals that two-thirds of heterosexual couples will remain together after an affair. Of course, some of these couples may stay together in misery while others will truly improve their relationships. How can you and your partner grow as a couple after an affair?
