It is normal to feel comforted by the thought that our partner is never going to have sex with anyone else but us. Marriage can give us the illusion that our partner is bound by a legal agreement to never cheat. This comes from a long history of marriage as primarily a real estate contract, used purely as a way to perpetuate a name or lineage. But today, with birth control and DNA testing there is no longer a need to use the same harsh outside control. Today we expect to marry not for our names or for property, but for love and for desire.
Exposing marital infidelity can be a costly and time consuming endeavor. Sure, there is a plethora of high-tech methods out there, but did you know you can now go CSI-style on your significant other's soiled undergarments to expose an extramarital affair?
There must be something so irresistible about a married man because so many women fall for them. In just one week, I have encountered two women who have slipped into the trap of fatal attraction for a married man. It is a dangerous territory and I do not recommend that anyone go there. I speak from experience having invested part of my life in a relationship with a married man. I am not writing about this subject to lecture or be judgmental or even to speak from my soapbox about what I know that you don’t. My intention is to expose the underhanded tactics, even if unintentional, of men and the naiveté of women that permit these relationships to flower.
Men are pretty unconscious about what makes them attractive. According to most women, it is not their looks that make them attractive, it is who they are and how they produce in the world. So...this married man goes to work and comes home and goes back to work the next day. At work there is a woman. She is single, attractive, smart, capable, speaks his language and someone who has time to pay attention to him. It starts as an innocent flirtation. What goes through his mind is something like "Let's see if I still have it!", so he starts flirting just to see what happens. Not a surprise, she responds by flirting back. This is the beginning of the affair.
Whether you are married or in a committed monogamous relationship, finding out that your partner had a scandalous affair with another person is extremely painful. Any form of infidelity leads to an enormous amount of emotional pain in all areas, trust issues, and possible risk of STD’s.
Have you started getting that gut feeling something isn’t quite right? Do you wonder if he may be up to something with someone else? Well, you don’t have to wonder any longer. There are five ways to test if your partner is cheating and get an answer once and for all. Cheat Test #1: Over the Shoulder When your partner is on his phone, subtly walk behind him and jump to his cheek to give him a kiss.
Newt Gingrich reportedly offered his second wife Marianne two choices: an open marriage or a divorce, when he revealed to her he was having an affair with his now-wife, Callista Bisek (that plastic-haired blonde you always see with him on the campaign trail).
Few things harm a relationship more than an affair. Whether the affair is emotional, a 'one night stand,' long term or a cyber-affair, the betrayal delivers a life-altering blow. Will the injury to the relationship prove fatal? There are some essential steps a couple must take for there to be any hope that the relationship can survive an affair. If done wisely, there is hope the relationship will come through the ordeal stronger than before. Here are eight steps that can help save your marriage.
You’ve found out your husband is having an affair. You’re shocked, angry and sad that betrayed you. You don’t want to leave him but you can’t stay with him while he’s with someone else. All you want is for him to stop having the affair so you can figure out if there’s any hope for the marriage.
Taking a look at marriage breakups makes me question the beliefs we hold based on cheating. I feel strongly enough about cheating to voice my opinion as a mistress. There’s a need for us to address and face our “self love” and “vanity” as both lead us to believe we have the rights to own each other, especially if we are married to the person. Many are unaware that we are composite parts that relate to the three aspects to our being.
When someone cheats on you it’s like your whole world has crashed down on you. It’s hard to get up and continue on with your life. It’s possible though, you just need to know how to do it. Understanding how to help yourself will get you back on your feet and feeling stronger in no time. Step #1: Allow Yourself to Feel the Pain
Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to be here anymore. Be here on this earth that is, be here in this ole' body of mine. Perhaps you can help. I think I'm simply looking for some inspiration. Also, when I think about no longer being "alive"... I am comforted. This feeling of calm comes over me. That's not a good sign, is it? I'm over fifty years old. I would have to admit I am sad and perhaps frustrated, and yes, maybe a little angry. I'm sure there are people out there who do love me, however, they seldom show it.
As an atheist, it's nice to know that I'm less likely to ever become president than a devout Christian who's cheated on his wife with everything that moves. Hypocrites much? Even as an atheist, I know the Ten Commandments better than some conservative folks.
As "The Pro Marriage Counselor" I have to tell you: There have been so many pop-articles recently about why men and woman cheat. These articles cite everything from so called “evolutionary psychology” studies to the unqualified opinions of celebrities to the actual North American and European infidelity rates. But just because Kim Kardashian or Ashton Kutcher and others say it, doesn't mean it's true!
You love your husband, but you've found yourself straying from him... and you don't know how to stop. After several years of marriage, you can't stop feeling guilty for letting yourself become sexually involved with another man. Is there any way to repair the damage you've done to save your marriage, or will your efforts be futile?