An interesting thing happens when you speak to hundreds of people who have ended relationships because their partner cheated; you actually learn how to have an affair. I have actually been asked by those in relationships to share with them how to have an affair so they don’t get caught! For the record, I do not condone planning an affair or extra-marital relationships.
If your world has been rocked by an emotional affair or by infidelity, it can be devastating and heartbreaking. It can also be a natural response to want to get even and do to the other what has been done to you. Rather than following the ways of the Romans - which didn't quite work out for them, by the way - it's healthier to refrain from getting even and work on getting better. Whether you caused it or were the unfortunate casualty of a painful affair, it's important to work on yourself and deciding if there is a relationship worth saving.
Question: I have a question about men being interested in watching transsexuals on a porn site and then having sexual dreams about penises. My boyfriend who is straight had a relationship with a transsexual about six years ago and still keeps in contact by phone. This issue has come up as it's interrupting our sex life since he'd rather watch she-male porn on the internet and jerk-off than have sex with me.
Why do men cheat? Are they hard-wired to be unfaithful or do women drive them to it by pressuring them too quickly into committed relationships?
When the news arrived last Friday that the beloved General David Petraeus had cheated on his wife of 37 years with his biographer, Paula Broadwell, I almost ignored it as a non-event. In a different world, I would perhaps be shocked myself. But having lived it, I think the answer to why this happens is much simpler than we wish to believe.
"I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you." — Friedrich Nietzsche Laurie and Frank were high school sweethearts. They married young because Laurie became pregnant and, being Catholic, any other choice was out of the question, so he decided to do the right thing. It wasn't that he didn't love her—he did, but as with all things high school and unfinished, over time, Frank longed for his lost youth.
When high-profile extramarital affairs hit the news, it's all most of us can do to keep from clicking on every juicy headline we come across. Who was the mistress? Who was the other man? We're ravenous for any bit of gossip (or even video) available about the cheaters...but what about those who were cheated on?
It isn't all that uncommon these days to have affair relationships. There are many men who have 'another woman' on the side and in fact there are also quite a lot of women who have 'another man'. It may seem exciting to be involved in an affair relationship but is it really worth losing your marriage or your current long term relationship over? People often have affair relationships because they are not happy in their current relationship.
Recently, dating and social media site Cheaterville released a survey of its users on the topic of hair color and cheating. The website is a place where you can publicly call out cheating partners — their slogan is "Don't be the last to know" — and see names of others who have cheated. According to their results, hair color seems to play a role in how likely you are to cheat.
As a marriage and family counselor I am always dealing with issues of sexuality, infidelity, and betrayal as well as intimacy, honesty, courage, and integrity. A rash of recent public scandals – from Tiger Woods to David Letterman, from Sen. John Ensign to Gov. Mark Sanford, to the suspected shenanigans of Jon Gosselin of reality TV's Jon and Kate – might make it seem that sexual infidelity is sweeping the land. Many of my clients want to know how to prevent an affair. Here’s what I tell them.
I'll never forget that moment. I was standing in my cute, little, suburban kitchen holding my sweet, 4-month-old baby girl with her back against my chest, pudgy little legs dangling in front of me, smiling at her dad, when he looked away from her precious face and into my adoring eyes, mouthing the words, "I have feelings for someone else."
This week's hot Hollywood news is that Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart may be getting back together following her "indiscretion" with director Rupert Sanders ... and why not? An affair doesn't have to be the end of a relationship. In fact, it can be a new beginning, bringing a couple closer than ever.