Uncovering an affair releases a firestorm of emotions; handling those feelings helps keep you sane!
If you’re lucky, you’ll never have to know what its like to have been cheated on. But affairs occur in about forty percent of marriages. If you have been the victim of an affair, you know that it hits like a punch to the gut. The many emotions that follow feel like a hailstorm of pain. Everyone has different feelings; not everyone feels all of these, and not at the same time. There are some predictable emotions, such as anger, panic, betrayal or a sense of loss. People’s depressions have been so acute that they have become suicidal over finding out about an affair.
In a marriage, ADHD "distraction" sometimes equals porn addiction and cheating.
Many married couples struggling with ADHD find their sex lives disintegrating: How to prevent this.
The same ADHD (Attention Deficity Hyperactivity Disorder) behaviors, compulsions, and coping strategies that send a married couple's relationship into rocky terrain can also get their sex life off track.
What makes a relationship prone to cheating and what you can do about it...
When a relationship is going throug serious problems. Some think the only way to ge ttheir mind off of their problems is to have an affair, citing that it was bound to happen. But is an affair actually inevitable? Our expert reveals four ways that you can prevent an affair from ever occuring.
You may have noticed that this was a big issue for both of you ... long before he cheated.
Appreciation is a way to show our partners we love and accept them, and there's no time more important to learn this than in the aftermath of an affair.
How do you ever get over something that hurtful? But what if some affairs are justified?
Affairs are very difficult for many spouses to handle. They wonder how their partner could hurt them and how they will recover from this betrayal. However, is it possible that an affair is justified? Dr. Tammy Nelson presents a case where that may just be so.
It's not wrong if it feels right, because you're doing it with someone you love.
Challenge #6: Affairs are sexy, spontaneous and forbidden; spark that fire within your relationship.
There's a high that comes from having an affair — the thrill, the illicitness, the secret meetings all make for a hot indiscretion. And having that with someone you've been married to for years can be even better.
In my 15 years of coaching, women have come to me over and over again with the same problem: falling for a married man.
The stories always begin the same way: "There's this guy... he's soo great! We connect in every way and he makes my heart flutter like a schoolgirl. I know, I know... he's married. But we've only gone on a couple of innocent dates..." Then, the guy makes his move.
Partial Excerpts from The New Monogamy; Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity
The new monogamy is a new way of looking at marriage and committed relationships. Most of us have followed a path to commitment that was provided for us by our culture and upbringing. We were taught what a committed relationship should look like, and we assumed that this was the only way to have a real partnership.
Can North Americans go Continental like the Parisians? Un amant n'est pas l'homme que vous aimez
French women seem capable of dancing with a paramour even if it is not the man they love. How is that possible? Je ne sais pas. Perhaps I am too much of a romantic. It seems too impossible. How can you become entangled with a paramour when there is one person out there, who, in the words to a Tina Turner song is simply the best?
You had some big plans. You wanted a romantic relationship, the kind that lasts forever. And yours was supposed to be special. Sure, lots of people cheat, you thought, but not your partner.
Preventing infidelity may be as simple as — and this seems obvious — telling the truth. Peggy Vaughn, author of the Myth of Monogamy, says that in order for couples to avoid an affair, they first have to accept that it is natural and normal to be attracted to other people. And if you find yourself fantasizing about someone other than your spouse, you should tell. Telling your partner would mean being honest about your feelings — not using the specific details to hurt your spouse — but to be open and honest about your concerns before they turn into something more.
