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You know the story: after a breakup, one of the parties involved wants to "be friends." Generally this is the lesser-wounded party speaking, and generally the budding friendship becomes one of two things: wilted or messy. The 4-Way Panel from Divine Caroline recently tackled this issue for a woman who wrote in hoping to understand the feelings of jealousy that arise when her "ex-turned-friend" talks about her dates with other women. The panel foursome, one of each gender and sexual orientation, unsurprisingly had some varying viewpoints on the woman's dilemma.
Love Buzz would like to point Tango readers in the direction of Miss Information, Nerve's dating columnist and all-around funny girl. Penned by Erin Bradley, former dating blogger, present humor and life blogger, this weekly, clever advice is a must-read for all seekers of dating wisdom.
Last week, I wrote about my friend Amber's breakup and I mentioned how terrible her boyfriend was. But when the relationship first started, I thought he was great. I was thrilled to see her with a man who loved her and treated her like a princess. Then, the tides turned. By the end, the best thing that could be said about her ex was that he was nice, sometimes.
Trumping news of war, health, food, pets or fashion, the most e-mailed item currently on The New York Times' site is Maureen Dowd's column from July 6 called "An Ideal Husband." In light of celebrity divorces stealing recent headlines, Dowd turned to a man whose motto on marriage would have to be "Do as I say, not as I do": a Catholic priest.
The key to a happy relationship? Treat him like a dog, reports Cincinnati news station WLWT. Well, somewhat. The station’s web site covers a new book, DogSense, which tells readers to take relationship cues, namely, unconditional love, from their pets. Author Carla Genender told the site: dog"At the beginning, it is so intense and so wonderful," she said of all relationships. "The longer you are in, no matter how good it is, the more you focus on the negative." So what’s the fix? One tip Genender offers is simple: Greet your spouse like your pooch does when you return home—pure excitement.
In my heartbroken state I yearned to do all the "wrong" things: exact brutal revenge, wallow in cynicism, and seek out meaningless shags. My concerned posse, on the other hand, suggested yoga, smiling from the inside, recording my feelings in a journal and going on platonic dates with young architects in Agnes B suits. Ignoring their advice, I chose the alternate route. Take this advice with a grain of salt (or a shot of tequila), and make sure this alternative treatment doesn't get out of control. You will know that it has gone too far if you find yourself walking naked and smoking a crack pipe on the street at five o'clock in the morning. But in all seriousness, a bit of bad behavior can help you to purge your anger and become independent, which is the only real way to deal.
Mercury Retrograde is a pesky type of energy: Under its influence, technology goes haywire, transportation issues crop up, and astrologers would advise you never to undertake, well, any big undertaking (including signing a lease, launching a project or accepting a new job under its influence.) On the other hand, it's a great time to regroup, reflect, and reboot. You'll notice a leitmotif there: any word involving the word "re" is generally safe game during Mercury Rx.
or the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: bad kissers. Question: I recently went on a date with an amazing woman—but at the end of the night, I discovered that she’s a terrible kisser. Is this a sign that we shouldn't get more physical, or can I "teach" her to improve her technique? -Sean, 29