You can't depend on anyone else to maintain your boundaries. That's an inside job. I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine, Kelsy, who was beside herself because her recent ex-boyfriend was not respecting her boundaries. She was laying them down very clearly, but he kept crossing the line. Sometimes he was stepping on the line, sometimes he was only one foot over the line.
Throughout the history of cinema, there has never been another screen legend quite like Marilyn Monroe—although her talent was often overshadowed by her many failed loves and her sex-symbol status. But even through the tough times, fighting illness and battling back from relationship woes, she was never without her sense of humor and many words of wisdom.
Being a little child is easy… You want something and you scream… Immediately everyone pays attention and you get what you want (just because your expression is loud, annoying and invokes pity and worry). Or you smile. You open those big magical child’s eyes and they melt anyone around you. And you get what you want. Being a little child is simple… When you do not want something, you scream… Immediately everyone pays attention (just because you are loud, irritating and persistent) and they let you have it.
Great energy, charismatic smile, but you better know how to spot a narcissist! Narcissists In The News That's a headline that I'd love to see on TV some day soon. Because whether we're talking about Bill O'Reilly, Glenn Beck, Sarah Palin, Charlie Sheen and Donald Trump, or the crazyness of Moammar Gadhafi, narcissism is increasingly in the news these days, front and center, right where the narcissists want to be. Our culture seems to have made a decision that promoting the self promoters over everyone else's interests is somehow in our interest.
The id, ego, and superego of food. The id, ego, and superego of food. Let’s be honest. There is nothing that can make us feel more down about ourselves than not feeling good about our bodies. I am all for inner beauty and being high frequency, but what we look like largely impacts the way we feel about ourselves. If we do not feel good about our physical self it is difficult to fully express a happy emotional self. Our self-hate will be experienced in our energy. We are a physical, emotional, mental and spiritual being. The physical is the first level with the others proceeding up the hierarchy.
An interesting life is incredibly attractive whether you want to attract or keep a man. When I was fifteen I had a break up I thought would kill me. Sadness descended in our home with such fierceness that my father still calls it the “semester of the never ending dark night.”
It’s those five little words that can simultaneously strike dread, joy, fear, and a slew of other emotions in any woman: “Will you be my bridesmaid?” In what some are calling the chicks’ answer to The Hangover, Bridesmaids assembles a motley crew of female comedians—from SNL stars Kristen Wiig and Maya Rudolph to Office receptionist Ellie Kemper—to explore the perks and pitfalls of this time-tested tradition. (We’re talking $800 dresses, serious one-upping between bridesmaids, disastrous Vegas jaunts, and fluffy purse dogs as bridal shower gifts!) And not, surprisingly, the cast has plenty of real-life anecdotes and advice to share with those who say “yes” to the bridesmaid dress.
I know this sounds crazy, but I believe it is best to prepare for divorce before you even get married. As a romantic, I hate this. As a divorce attorney, mediator and coach, I've seen the worst of the worst walk through my office door and cannot tell you how priceless this advice actually is. Being prepared for the unexpected may be one of the smartest decisions you'll ever make.
There is nothing more frustrating to the single woman than the moment she suspects the man she has tagged as “Mr. Possible Long-term Relationship,” begins to show signs of pulling away. Before we launch into signs he actually is “pulling away,” (there are signs you want to recognize) it’s critical to understand that, in truth, women may often only imagine the vanishing act is about to ensue when, in fact, it’s merely fear from past relationships that ended abruptly sparking your vivid imagination.
Warning: The following statement may not make sense at first glance. The worst time to fight is when you’re mad. I know that might seem like a contradictory thought. However, when anger comes up it’s usually because there is an issue that needs addressing or a problem that needs solving. Anyone who’s ever had a fight, (which is pretty much anyone at all) knows the energy of anger itself is not conducive to problem solving.
Have you ever wondered why men behave the way they do? Silly question. Of course you have. In his "Dear Women" letter, humorist Streeter Seidell aimed to clear a few things up. He explained some baffling male phenomena for us, like why men don't seem the least bit thrilled by a cute baby at the mall (it just isn't his baby) or the reason for their extreme horniness (equivalent to a female period, it's nature-induced so they can reproduce… oh, fine). We were enlightened, folks. So when he issued a call to women asking for any insights into the female brain, we felt we should write back. It's only fair. So, to all the guys out there, we hope our letter clears a few things up for you, as well.
Don't marry this guy. You aren't in love with him. If anything is clear in your letter, it's that. You are not in love with this guy. And you know what? You'll be fine without him. As long as you've been together, it must be scary to think about not being with him anymore, but as much time as you spend on your own, you have to know you'll be okay by yourself. And, eventually, you'll find someone new if that's what you want.
So much of our contact with other people these days is completely virtual. Text messaging, instant messaging, Twitter, Facebook, MySpace, e-mail, and the list goes on. There are an infinite number of ways to communicate in the virtual world. Most of us are pretty good at it. However, face-to-face, girl meets boy flirting is getting to be a lost art. I recently had a client tell me she'd forgotten how to actually flirt, and I believe it. I think most people feel awkward flirting. That said, practice makes perfect.
I recently did short interviews with approximately 50 married men. I asked one simple question. "How did you know she was the one?" Two answers came to the top over and over again. 1. There was something about her that knocked my socks off from the very beginning, some undefinable quality that caught my attention. 2. I knew I'd have to work to get her.
The moment you announce your pregnancy to the world, everyone and their cousin feels the need to tell you what's best for your child. It's one thing for a close friend to mention that you may want to reconsider your baby's soft-drink habit; but, it's quite another when a stranger feels the need to comment on how best to discipline your toddler. Here's what to do when you find yourself face-to-face with a wagging finger pointed at you and your child.