The smartphone has evolved into more than a high-tech gadget. People love their phones. Literally. Recently, a successful and highly educated adult told me that she "couldn't live" without her iPhone, which she then called "one of my best friends."
If you have a pattern of dating men who use recreational drugs — or engage in any activity of which you disapprove — you may be wondering how to attract a different kind of guy. In this video, psychologist and YourTango Expert Dr. Susan Pazak explains what you can do to break the cycle of unhealthy relationships.
There's been a lot of publicity around the issue of porn and its effect on men, women and relationships. With porn so accessible and free, it has taken on a new fervor in the lives of so many people. As with most things that affect certain synapses in the brain, porn can quickly turn from an occasional supplement that heightens one's sex life to an addiction that wreaks havoc and prevents real intimacy. Here are seven warning signs that you have become a victim to the allure of pornography.
I can just see it coming. Imagine sitting home watching television one day in the near future. In a commercial, you see a child go into his bedroom, lock the door, turn on his computer, and unbutton his pants. Just then, the camera cuts away to reveal a bunch of facts and figures telling us why pornography is now the latest life-crippling disease.
The relationship between the brain and porn is a mystery to most. So many people have shared with me how pornography has affected their brain and ultimaltely their relationships. Many women try to understand why their partner seems to be addicted to it? Seems like they just can't get enough of it! And it's NOT just men that enjoy viewing it. It may be they are just more vocal about it.
Until 1994, if you wanted to view pornography, you had to get dressed, get in your car, drive to a seedy shop in a bad part of town and fork over hard-earned cash for an overpriced magazine ... all the while hoping not to be seen by the neighbor's teenage kid, your boss, the police or your spouse. Today, thanks to streaming video over the Internet and smart-phones, finding porn doesn't even require getting out of bed.
It was 1998 when Lindsay Lohan first hit the big screen in The Parent Trap. With a fresh freckled face, quick wit and a surprisingly clear focus, long term success seemed inevitable for her. Growing up before our eyes, Lindsay's likable looks and down to earth charm made her the girl next door that countless others could relate to. However, with a mounting movie career, little parental supervision and unlimited funds at her fingertips, she slipped from promising professional to proficient party girl.
I recently met a successful surgeon who bragged that she had her UPS guy on speed dial to take advantage of the free return service offered by a well known online shoe store. The problem? This same surgeon is tens of thousands of dollars in debt, still paying off her med school loans and wanting help from me to understand her depression, stress and compulsive shopping. My doctor colleague needs to get a hold of her self esteem issues that lie underneath her shopping addiction before she will ever experience the freedom she craves. Money issues are only a symptom of an imbalanced life.
In this video, Relationship Expert and YourTango Expert Janie Lacy helps a reader whose husband struggled with an addiction to porn and sex in the past. Now that he's recovered, she's nervous that one day he may resort back to his old habits. She's also concerned that this addiction will be passed down to their son. 5 Excuses A Man Will Give For Watching Porn
I don’t have an addictive personality. I’ve dabbled in just about everything. I’ve smoked, gambled, tried any number of substances, but I’ve never been hooked on any of them so badly that I couldn’t stop. I consider myself fortunate. But there is one thing that is a total contradiction to what I have just professed. Sex!
Are you dating or married to someone who has a problem with alcohol or substance abuse? Are you tired of the negative affects this has had on your relationship and waiting for the one you love to change? How Do I Stop Holding A Grudge About Everything? In this video, Psychotherapist, Author and YourTango Expert Julie Orlov helps a reader whose husband is a high-functioning alcoholic. She says she has lost faith that he will ever get sober and is thinking about leaving him.
If something seems amiss in your sexual relationship with your partner, it's possible that he is compulsively using internet porn or sexual connection with others in a destructive way. There are warning signs you might see if your partner is having a problem with sexually compulsive behavior.
Living in this constantly changing world can feel like being on a roller coaster ride with no end in sight. Just when you think things are settling down, you round the bend and you’re headed up the ramp for another plunge. The first of the four noble truths of Buddhism is the truth of suffering. As much as we don’t want to suffer, don’t like to suffer, try to keep suffering away, it is unavoidable. With the experience of pain, there is a survival reaction that instantly and instinctively commands fight or flight. We feel angry, we feel afraid, we feel pain.
With the holidays approaching it can be very trying on relationships… especially if you are in a relationship with someone making a go at being in recovery from drugs and alcohol. Most holiday gatherings are centered around alcohol and family – two things that are problems for most addicts. Having a roadmap to navigate this time of year is the key to keeping your relationship healthy and supporting your partner through recovery. Here are our Top Five Tools to Surviving the Holidays with a Recovering Addict:
Think being bisexual is a fun, carefree walk in the park? Bisexuals often feel rejected by both the straight and the LGBT community, and that feeling of not fitting in appears to be strongest with bisexual women.