Often when I bring up the notion of “surrendering” in my sessions with clients, the idea is met with a sense of resistance or annoyance, as if I was suggesting giving up. However, the kind of surrendering I am talking about is the kind that allows us to flow with life rather than resist it.
After such a difficult moment in your life, you start to question yourself. Know that one mistake does not mean your instincts are wrong. Those feelings are apart of you and they are there for a reason. Learn to trust yourself again with these helpful exercises.
The United Nations Human Rights Office recently launched a campaign to promote equality and acceptance around the globe, and this video, titled The Welcome, is going a long way to spread the word.
Do you ever just look in the mirror and ask yourself "what does it mean to be you?" "Who are you and what do you represent?" You should. Whatever the answer is, make sure you are absolutely happy with it. True happiness starts with self improvement.
The reason most people feel unhappy is that they are in search of this illusive happiness that is somehow found outside of them in things they acquire, people they want and experiences they have. While these things can bring temporary pleasure, if you are seeking true happiness, it’s an InsideOut job.
Everyone has their own prejudices and preconceived ideas of what certain groups of people are about. At times we are more aware of these ideas; at times we try to hide them; however, when we are completely honest, we have to acknowledge how these affect our perceptions. Only in doing so, do we have the possibility of truly understanding ourselves and then be able to affect how we interact with others.
Relationships are challenging, if not one of the most challenging things we ever experience. We can all think of at least one relationship we’ve had where we experienced struggle, heartache, disappointment, stress, and pain in our own unique way. Though relationships are very complex, there is one realization that I made about a year ago that forever changed the way I viewed and acted in relationships. As a result, my relationships have been much more fulfilling and much less stressful. The realization?
I had quite an amazing experience the other day when I was meditating. I’ll preface it by saying that allergy season hit hard last week in NYC. It came suddenly and I believe the pollen count reached a record high. It floored me. It does so every year, but this year has been especially bad.
You are perfect the way you are. You are exactly where you need to be at this moment. If you change tomorrow, then tomorrow you will also be where you need to be. You can only be who you are and where you are as a result of all of your ancestry and all of evolution, because no single event can be taken out of the context of the whole. Change will happen when you are ready, and not because you feel it should happen, or because you feel changing something will fix things. Never compare yourself with others.
We always hear about the five stages of grief a person goes through when a loved one passes away. They were first proposed by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book On Death and Dying. Did you know that you will also go through these five stages of grief after a divorce?
The last of our kids graduated from high school 4 years ago, but as the end of spring approaches I still get a pit in my stomach and wake up frightened. You know that proverbial reoccurring nightmare that you slept through a final? For me it’s reliving the anxiety, worry and concern while waiting for all those college acceptance notices! Not worried so much about which would be a yes or no but how those letters would affect my kids.
All of us have secrets. We learn to live with them. We usually keep them close. And of all of them, there’s usually one biggie. One we hope and pray will never come out. But what are we so afraid would happen if others discovered our secret? Why do we hold it so tightly against our chests?