Everyone has their own prejudices and preconceived ideas of what certain groups of people are about. At times we are more aware of these ideas; at times we try to hide them; however, when we are completely honest, we have to acknowledge how these affect our perceptions. Only in doing so, do we have the possibility of truly understanding ourselves and then be able to affect how we interact with others.
Relationships are challenging, if not one of the most challenging things we ever experience. We can all think of at least one relationship we’ve had where we experienced struggle, heartache, disappointment, stress, and pain in our own unique way. Though relationships are very complex, there is one realization that I made about a year ago that forever changed the way I viewed and acted in relationships. As a result, my relationships have been much more fulfilling and much less stressful. The realization?
I had quite an amazing experience the other day when I was meditating. I’ll preface it by saying that allergy season hit hard last week in NYC. It came suddenly and I believe the pollen count reached a record high. It floored me. It does so every year, but this year has been especially bad.
You are perfect the way you are. You are exactly where you need to be at this moment. If you change tomorrow, then tomorrow you will also be where you need to be. You can only be who you are and where you are as a result of all of your ancestry and all of evolution, because no single event can be taken out of the context of the whole. Change will happen when you are ready, and not because you feel it should happen, or because you feel changing something will fix things. Never compare yourself with others.
We always hear about the five stages of grief a person goes through when a loved one passes away. They were first proposed by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book On Death and Dying. Did you know that you will also go through these five stages of grief after a divorce?
The last of our kids graduated from high school 4 years ago, but as the end of spring approaches I still get a pit in my stomach and wake up frightened. You know that proverbial reoccurring nightmare that you slept through a final? For me it’s reliving the anxiety, worry and concern while waiting for all those college acceptance notices! Not worried so much about which would be a yes or no but how those letters would affect my kids.
All of us have secrets. We learn to live with them. We usually keep them close. And of all of them, there’s usually one biggie. One we hope and pray will never come out. But what are we so afraid would happen if others discovered our secret? Why do we hold it so tightly against our chests?
When January rolls around, tradition suggests making all sorts of resolutions. However, they all have one thing on common: They get broken. Statistically, 25 percent of New Year's resolutions are broken in the first week, and 90 percent by the end of February!
The Oscar-nominated film 'Silver Linings Playbook' introduces us to messy relationships and messy lives. The relationships and characters are incredibly sensitive and humane. It is a romantic comedy that highlights the best and worst behaviors of people in relationships.
Do I have your attention now?! The quest to get someone to do what they want brings many people into therapy, whether they want the partner, child, friend, client, or parents to stop smoking, be nice, have sex more often, have sex less often, eat more vegetables and fruit, exercise, do homework, respect them, clean the bathroom, or pay more for services.
In recent weeks, Hurricane Sandy has affected many dimensions of life in the greater New York area. Among this has been a shortage of fuel which has not been seen since the 1970s. Those who drive in the area are suddenly becoming acutely aware of how much they take for granted that they can fill up their vehicle with gas as rationing is now being implemented in