How to stand up for yourself and not accept name-calling and abuse
Dear Dr. Romance,
My name is Michelle i am 18 years old.. I was reading an article that you posted up about fighting; and everything that you talked about not doing during a fight I tend to do. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and we tend to fight a lot about the smallest things that you could possibly imagine. I am usually the one who doesn't blow up or yell. I tend to hold everything in, but I do cry a lot.
Childhood emotional abuse often leads to self-criticism, which spells trouble for relationships.
People often joke that, despite our best efforts not to, we grow up to mirror the habits and behaviors of our parents. Unfortunately, this age-old concept now stretches even further, and it may be affecting romantic relationships.
It's official. Chris Brown and Rihanna are together again—musically, at least. While Rihanna may have forgiven Chris Brown, who pled guilty to felony assault, others can't forget the startling photo of a battered Rihanna and fear it could happen again. Which begs the question, can an abuser really change?
Find out why some women like Rihanna stay (unfortunately) in toxic, damaging relationships.
Recent reports of the professional collaboration between Rihanna and Chris Brown are a little irritating. If Rihanna is this close to Chris Brown, she is in over her head. You cannot be half in and half out of a relationship with destructive men like Brown.
Women like Rihanna who are targeted by self-serving or toxic men like Chris Brown have certain qualities that make them more appealing and worthy of a hot pursuit after his fists fly and it all crumbles. It’s hard to find women who tolerate on this level so Brown is driven to get her back on his good side and it looks like he's done a good job.
Unhappy with your relationships? Here's the likely culprit, and how to fix it...
Unhappy with your relationships?
Here's the likely culprit, and how to fix it... you need to strengthen your personal boundaries.
Strong personal boundaries give you the freedom to say yes to what you want and no to what you don’t want, despite the risk of displeasing others. What a concept, huh? (The irony is the more you try to please others, the less you succeed. Nobody likes a people pleaser.) You’ll automatically upgrade your relationships and improve your life overall.
Practical solutions to overcoming your fear and ending an unhealthy relationship.
Fear is a powerful force. It can paralyze you, motivate you, or make you question your ability to make wise choices. If you're in a relationship and wondering if its time to get out, how can you decide to leave when you're afraid to do so?
I'm all about HOPE. In most cases, there is an endless supply of hope for healing. Whether you're in a relationship that has been filled with joy or filled with pain, hope is there to pull you forward, motivating positive changes and giving you joy. However, sometimes the most healthy thing is to end the relationship.
My boyfriend abuses, manipulates and cheats on me. How can I get over this experience?
I have been in a relationship with a narcissist for over four years. I didn't realize he was a narcissist until I began to feel as if I was losing my mind about two years ago and sought out therapy. The relationship, or lack thereof, began good, then got very bad and the cycle continued to get progressively worse and littered with emotional abuse.
Recognizing the value of you and your body by taking control of your choices and relationships
In this final chapter on identifying boundaries we continue to explore how our boundaries and limits stem from our views about ourselves and how they impact our lives and relationships. Recognizing your value and making choices to support that value is an integral part of relationship building and maintenance. Boundaries can show your level of respect for yourself and your body through how you act and what people you allow to have influence over you. Learning that you have value can help you to understand that the way in which you treat yourself is how others will treat you.