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Two Legendary Cosmo Editors In Exclusive Q&A

Legendary Cosmo editors Bonnie Fuller and Helen Gurley Brown with advice on sex, love and career.

That's not all. Before Helen got her delicate hands on the public consciousness every month with Cosmo, beginning in 1965, single women were truly considered inferior misfits to married women.

"The reigning philosophy at the time was that if you were female and not married by the age of 30, you might as well go to the Grand Canyon and throw yourself in," she has said. "If you were having sex and not married, don't bother with the Grand Canyon, just go to the kitchen, put your head in the oven and turn on the gas."

Helen knew "these ideas were cuckoo" and wholeheartedly believed that single women "were the least understood and most maligned minority group of all time."

She decided to change that perception with Cosmo, which she used to celebrate the lives of fun, fearless females. Now you may not think of Cosmo as being a feminist magazine, but Helen made it an advocate for having a life that you're in charge of—career-wise, man-wise and looks-wise.

I caught up with the still busy Helen Gurley Brown who, at 87, goes into her office every day and works diligently as editor-in-chief of Cosmopolitan International.

She's still happy to dole out advice on how to make your life 100 percent happier, so I took your pressing questions to her. Here, the original Cosmo Girl gives YourTango users the answers!

1) QUESTION: I'm curious what advice Helen Gurley Brown would have given her 21-year-old self, career or otherwise, now that's she's older. - Chacha

ANSWER: Good things will happen if you get up every day and work at it. It's a lot of trouble to do the best you can. It's the secret of my so-called success. A lot of concentration will bring results eventually. If you aren't getting any recognition after a while, then you probably aren't doing something you could be. Work harder.

2) QUESTION: What do you think of hooking up? - BookMama

ANSWER: I think it's OK—do it!

3) QUESTION: In a world where marriages fall apart, how can I make mine stick? - MISUNDERSTOOD

ANSWER: Treat your husband like a friend. Be reasonably honest, considerate and do things with him that he enjoys doing. Be a good person to him—that's a good recipe. Be polite, kind and be careful of your husband's feelings. And you both need to be responsible for each others' health, well-being and money!

4) QUESTION: What's the best relationship advice you've ever received? - genevieve

ANSWER: Don't put up with a jerky man for too long. You need to let go and find someone who is more worthwhile. Being unhappy with a man is about as unhappy as you can get. And I know because we've all been in a situation where we're crazy about someone who is treating us badly. If you're having trouble, break it off—see a shrink. A professional person can help you see your way out of it.

5) QUESTION: What do you think of an open marriage or relationship? - nicole

Can you relate?

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LyndaW Married Blunt and Married23 years
Posted July 8, 2009

Ha Ha BookMama I agree!

Again, I disagree about can an open marriage work? YES! Absolutely! For those of us who 'get it' understand and are honest with ourselves and our mates. 23 + years. A lot of us that are open and honest are still married, with grown kids....the one on one relationships....I can think of 3. Open relationships are a physical relationship with others and a deep and honest, for us anyway, emotional relationship with our mates.

How many cheating articles in the news since the first of the year have you read? I think so many I'm sick of them! We don't cheat, we don't have to, we have mutual gratifying safe fun!

Bet my sex life with my DH is better, and always has been, than most! The point of getting married is ONLY that you have met your soul/life mate..............before kids and after kids, we are still soul/life mates! How many 'monogamous' marriages can boast such?

Just My 2cnts
Bright Blessings,
LyndaW

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BookMama Married Happily Married
Posted July 8, 2009

Hey, I've been with my sweetie over 25 years in a monogamous relationship and we're still in love.

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BookMama Married Happily Married
Posted July 8, 2009

Well, I think we might have managed to have the feminist movement and the sexual revolution anyway.

But it is interesting to read HGB's advice and get her perspective on things.

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